Roadblocks of Kindness
Who or what is the main roadblock that prevents our kindness.
It is our own thoughts. The kind of Kindness the world needs is "rooted in thoughtfully cultivated emotional intelligence...When your kindness is no longer dependent on your fleeting feelings, you begin to develop a capacity for compassion"(pg.47).
True or False
If false explain
As a nurse it is of most importance to check off the boxes of each patient.
FALSE
We know to be empathetic and put ourselves in the shoes of our patient. Go beyond the boxes and try to connect on a deeper level.
The skill of bringing active attention to the present... state of observing thoughts and feelings without judging them as good and bad.
Mindfulness
Being awareness to our physical and mental world while managing that inner critic.
The kind of kindness the world needs is one that pays better ________. It listens well in order to love better.
Attention.
What is emotional regulation?
"The ability to respond to the ongoing demands of experience with the range of emotions in a manner that is socially tolerable and sufficiently flexible... modulating one's state or behavior in a given situation"(Pg 46).
Besides in assisting patients, how can kindness be spread in the workplace/hospital?
Coworkers
Wearing a smile
Being kind to yourself
What is the reinterpreting of a situation in order to effectively adjust your emotional response to it.
Cognitive reframing
The kind of kindness the world needs is the __________ understanding that kindness will almost always cost us our comfort and usually our convenience...It's tough to publicy cry, but it's tougher to publicly care.
This is the act of being __________
Vulnerable/vulnerability
What makes people feel, if any emotion at all, more likely to be sympathetic than empathetic?
Looking for one key word...
Lack of PERSPECTIVE
Our ability to understand other's emotions is empathy. Understanding someone else's side to the story, their perspective, we gain a better view of a given situation.
What are ways you can have a patient open up to you and express hidden emotions or concerns?
Gaining their trust
Being consistent
Having Courage
" I do not care if others get wet if I get to stay dry".
This is a not a good trait and is called...
Apathy.
Instead try having sympathy or even empathy.
The kind of kindness the world needs is one that is free from the ____________ of what you get in return.
Another way to say it... Having any __________ is not how you approach kindness. Knowing that it is for the common good instead of yourself.
The kind of kindness the world needs is one that is free from the EXPECTATIONS of what you get in return.
What are the three I's that get in the way of Kindness?
1. Incompetence
2. Insecurity
3. Inconvenience
What is a basic skill, or at least should be, that is important when conversating with patients or care-takers?
Active Listening. Genuinely listening and not having something quick to say is important. While we might be thinking about what to say next, sometimes it is just head nods that can be more effective.
__________ is the kindness that repairs our broken hearts.
"Separate the person from the behavior"
Forgiveness
The kind of kindness the world needs...Is rooted in a desire for the ________ ____. It's the kind willing to get sweaty in pursuit of SELFLESSNESS.
Hint* While it may not directly benefit you, it is for the _______ ____.
The kind of kindness the world needs is rooted in a desire for the Common Good.
Even being kind to strangers.
With use of meditation, calming down the _________ and using more of the _______ ________ can help make more moral decisions and reduce stress.
Amygdala
Prefrontal cortex
The ____________ perspective in nursing is important when understanding the entirety of a patient.
Prof. Mumm emphasizes this perspective because it helps nurses view more than just "the road". hint hint.
Windshield Perspective
"It's not cool to not care, it's just easier not to care".
Houston Kraft promotes exposing yourself to risk. The risk that you might get laughed at or judged or mocked.
He wants us to be _________
Vulnerable
Having vulnerability reminds us that caring is not a passive thing. "Meaningful dreams might feel ambitious, but the choice to make them happen is vulnerable".
The kind of kindness the world needs is specific and intentional...It knows that sometimes we are just a few inspiring words away from a _________ or a _________.
*Only need to guess one of the words right
*hint- The spreading of kindness can be the start of a _________
Revelation or REVOLUTION
Important to note we have a responsibility to spread positivity. It's CONTAGIOUS.