Feelings
Personal Bubble
Circle Of Support
Secrets
Kinsmen Club Expectations
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Why do feelings matter when it comes to staying safe?
Feelings matter because they can warn us when something does not feel right.
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Why does every person have a personal bubble?
Every person has a personal bubble to help them feel safe and comfortable.
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What is the purpose of having a circle of support?
The purpose is to have safe adults you can go to for help.
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Why are some secrets safe to keep while others are not?
Some secrets are safe because they do not involve harm, while others are unsafe because someone could get hurt.
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Why do we limit how many kids can be in the washroom at one time?
We limit the number of kids to help with safety and supervision.
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How can your body show feelings even before you talk about them?
Your body may show feelings through things like a fast heartbeat, tight muscles, or a sick feeling in your stomach.
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How can your personal bubble change depending on where you are or who you are with?
Your personal bubble can change based on the situation and how safe or comfortable you feel.
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Why are safe adults placed in different rings of the circle of support instead of all in one ring?
Safe adults are in different rings because some are closer and easier to reach, while others are still safe but may be outside of school or home.
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What makes a secret a speak secret instead of a keep secret?
A secret becomes a speak secret when it makes you feel uncomfortable or could cause harm.
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Who's only allowed to open the outside doors at club and WHY.
STAFF.
Only staff open the doors to make sure everyone stays safe and accounted for.
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How can strong feelings help you make safe choices?
Strong feelings can help you notice danger and decide to get help or move away.
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What are two body signs that can tell you your personal bubble is being crossed?
Body signs can include feeling tense, wanting to move away, or feeling uncomfortable inside.
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Why is it important to have more than one person in your circle of support?
It is important because if one person cannot help, another can.
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Why are secrets about breaking rules never okay to keep?
These secrets are not okay to keep because they can lead to someone getting hurt.
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Why is it important to clean up messes at club, even if you did not make the mess
Cleaning up helps keep the space safe and lets us do more fun activities the faster we clean up. This space and equipment is for all of you so the better we take care of it the more fun we can have using it.
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What can happen if someone ignores their feelings when something feels wrong?
Ignoring feelings can put someone in unsafe situations or make the problem worse.
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Why is it important to respect someone else’s personal bubble even if you are comfortable being close?
It is important because everyone has different boundaries and respecting them helps keep everyone safe.
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What should you do if someone in your circle of support does not listen or take action?
You should tell another trusted adult in your circle of support.
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Why is it important to tell a safe adult even if someone asks you not to?
It is important because safety is more important than keeping a secret.
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SCENARIO
Something happens at club that makes a kid feel very angry. Without telling anyone, they walk away from the group and start heading toward another area of the club or toward the exit because they want space. What is the safest and best choice the kid can make to follow club expectations?
The safest choice is to stay where staff can see them or let a staff member know how they are feeling before leaving the area. It is okay to feel angry and need space, but staff need to know where kids are so they can keep everyone safe. Asking for a break or help is a better choice than leaving without telling anyone.
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SCENARIO
Your feelings tell you something is wrong, but someone you know says you are overreacting and tells you to keep quiet. What should you do?
You should trust your feelings and tell a safe adult in your circle of support.
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SCENARIO
You tell someone to stop standing so close to you, but they laugh and keep stepping closer. Your body feels tight and uncomfortable. What should you do next to protect yourself?
You should move away, say stop clearly if you can, and tell a trusted adult.
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SCENARIO
You tell one trusted adult in your circle of support about a problem, but they are busy and say they will handle it later. Days pass and the problem continues. What should you do, and why?
You should tell another trusted adult in your circle of support because your safety is important and you should keep telling until someone helps.
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SCENARIO
A friend tells you they stole something and says you will get in trouble if you tell anyone. You feel nervous and uncomfortable. What should you do?
You should tell a trusted adult and keep telling until someone helps.
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SCENARIO
A kid at club feels very mad about something. They stop talking and begin ignoring staff. Staff remind them that it is okay to feel mad, but it is not okay to ignore people or be disrespectful. The kid then starts answering staff in a rude way. What is the best choice the kid can make to follow club expectations?
The best choice is to take a moment to calm down, speak respectfully to staff, and let them know how they are feeling. It is okay to be mad, but it is important to listen, use kind words, and ask for help or a break so the situation can be handled in a safe and respectful way.