Boundaries/I statement
What is a Boundary
Limits and rules we set to define what is acceptable and unacceptable in our relationships, protecting our physical and psychological selves, and maintaining our well-being
Example of a Red Flag in communication
Answer may vary
When you feel really sad or angry, what do you do to let those feelings out?
Answers may vary; is that a healthy or unhealthy way to express your feelings?
____ is what you mean to do, while ____ is how your action or word makes another person feel
What is Intent; Impact
Who won the World Cup
Why are I statements helpful
answer varies but looking for
reduce blame
prevent defensiveness improve clarity during difficult talks
Example of a green flag in communication
Answer may vary
Name at least 2 activities you can engage in for at least 20 minutes to distract yourself.
- Watching TV
- Listening to soothing or my favorite kind of music
- Reading a book
- Playing a game
What is the cycle of avoidance(anxiety)
- avoid , feel relief, then that anxiety becomes more intense, so I avoid it more= anxiety
Who is my social support
answer varies
List all the types of boundaries you know
Physical, Emotional, Time, Material/money, Sexual, Intellectual
How can DEARMAN help
answers may vary
Name 2 activities that involve paper and at least one writing utensil that can be used for coping
Drawing
journaling
doodling
coloring
True or FALSE:
"I failed this test. I am stupid so I am giving up."
is an example of all or nothing thinking
Fact
What can help me with facing things that I want to avoid
various things
Give an example that is not an effective I statement
answers varies:
contains:
you statements
contains blame
defensive
contains absolutes (always, never, all)
How can we use the feeling thermometer in tough conversations
Answers may vary
contains:
if I feel my thermometer rise; I know I need to calm down or I may say something I dont mean
True or False? Drinking cold water, eating something sour, doing exercise, and taking medication as prescribed are all coping activities
True
*BONUS: Name some unhealthy coping strategies.
When does avoiding something become harmful
personal answer;
looking for: when it causes anxiety
purpose, reason, or motivation behind what you say, do, or feel
Intent
How would you communicate a using I statements about this situation.. " You never pay attention! I tell you to do something and you always forget or never listen to me!"
Answers may vary
Free for all;
Name something you can say to yourself (or out loud) when you are beginning to struggle
- I can do this.
- Remember your coping skills.
- Breathe.
- I am safe and supported.
- I don't have to act on my thoughts
What are things that I do that can affect my mood
answers vary:
-not sleeping
-overthinking
the actual effect or outcome that an action, word, or event has on a person's feelings, thoughts, and behavior
Impact