Positive Self-talk
When should you use positive self-talk?
When you are feeling frustrated or angry. It also helps to use positive self-talk when you first wake up and throughout the day.
What are the 3 I message we have worked with?
I feel...
I would like...
I would appreciate...
What is an anger trigger?
Something that you react to because you're feeling angry or frustrated.
When should you use deep breathing?
Daily to practice.
Also when I recognize an anger trigger or when I feel upset, frustrated, or mad.
What should I do if I notice I'm ignoring someone?
I could ask questions, repeat words, or make comments to show I'm listening.
What should you do if you catch yourself saying something negative?
Tell yourself to take deep breaths and say to yourself, "I can handle it. It will be ok."
When should you use an I message?
When I feel frustrated at someone. When I have trouble thinking.
What are some of your anger triggers?
When someone laughs at a joke I don't think is funny.
When the water is too cold.
When someone disrespects my culture.
When I feel left out of conversations.
Sometimes when dad tells me to clean up my room.
When I have to wake up early in the morning.
What are some deep breathing techniques you like to practice?
Gratitude breathing using abdominal breathing.
Square breathing and shoulder breathing too.
"My sisters have abandoned me."
"They give me gifts. They take me special places when we visit."
Name 3 positive self-talk statements.
I can handle it.
It will be ok.
I can do it.
I am frustrated when I have to get up in the morning and dad prompts me several times. What is an I message I could use?
I feel frustrated. I would appreciate it if you could set the alarm.
What can you do when dad tells you to clean your room?
I will just do it. Take a deep breath.
I would appreciate if you could set a timer for me to get it done.
What are other ways to handle stress or anger?
Go for a walk, exercise, tense and release practice.
Change this into a positive phrase.
"I'm not happy with my life."
"I am happy with my life and I enjoy all the activities I do."
What is an affirmation?
It is a phrase to use to help you feel positive. It is in the present tense. For example, "I am friendly"
If someone says something that disrespects my culture, I could say...
I would appreciate it if you could be kind and respectful.
If someone says something that disrespects my culture, I could...
Use an I message such as,
I would appreciate if you could be kind and respectful, and not talk about my culture.
Demonstrate part of a tense and release program.
Practice one of the parts.
Pick an affirmation and practice saying it 3 time.
For example: I am friendly, I am friendly, I am friendly.
OR
I am caring, I am caring, and I am caring.
What I message could you say if you'd like to make plans with one of your friends?
"I would appreciate your help contacting my friend's mom to make plans for us."
If I feel left out or bored, what could I do?
Use an I message,
"I feel left out, and I would like to be included. I need attention too."
Demonstrate a breathing technique.
Square breathing
Gratitude breathing