Greetings
The first thing you say when greeting a person to gain their attention.
"Hi", "Hello", "Hey"
Respond to this conversation starter:
"Something fun happened to me. Would you like to hear about it?"
Example:
"Yes, I would like to hear about it", "What happened to you?"
What does the conversation stoplight tell us?
Whose turn it is to speak.
Name 3 behaviors that drive or keep a conversation going
- eye contact
- body language to show you are interested
- make connected comments
- share the conversation time
- talk about things both/all people are interested in, not just you
Scenario: Korbin tells Brian about his karate tournament. Brian says, "You're not even a black belt." Korbin feels bad and doesn't say much more.
Did Brian drive or stop the conversation? How can you tell?
Stop
Korbin feels bad and doesn't say much more, so Brian must have hurt his feelings.
The best way to keep a conversation going after greeting.
a. Asking a question
b. Making a comment and walk away
c. Saying bye
a. Ask a question (e.g., "how are you?", "what did you do over the weekend?", "do you have any plans this weekend?")
Respond to this conversation starter:
"I have some free time later, do you want to get together and catch up?"
Examples:
"Yes, that would be great!", "I have plans later but I would love to catch up another time, when are you free next?"
What does each color mean?
Green: Your turn to talk
Yellow: The conversation is starting to slow down/there is a pause.
Time to change the subject/end the convo?
Red: The other person is talking and you should not be.
LISTEN and watch for clues
Name 3 behaviors that stop a conversation
- poor eye contact/not looking towards the person
- body language that shows you are not interested
- not staying on topic
- "hogging" the conversation/not taking turns
- only talking about yourself or your interests
Did Marcus drive or stop the conversation? How can you tell?
He made a connected comment that was on topic.
How we show a person that we are talking to them (not using our mouths).
Body language
- facing the person
- eye contact/looking towards the person
Respond to this conversation starter:
"Hey, how have you been?"
Examples:
"I've been good, [share some information], how have you been?"
Scenario: Brady asks Billy, "Did you play that new video game yet?" Billy says, "Not yet! I'm going to tonight. Have you?"
Whose turn is it to talk?
Brady
How might stopping a conversation make your conversation partner feel?
Brianna and Victor are talking about the book they are reading in class. Kathleen interrupts and says, “I went out to eat last night.” Brianna and Victor give Kathleen a confused look.
Did Kathleen drive or stop the conversation? How can you tell?
Stop
She interrupted Brianna and Victor's conversation and changed the subject
The steps we take when we are meeting someone for the first time.
1. Say hi
2. Ask for the person's name
3. Share your name
4. "It's nice to meet you"
Respond to this conversation starter:
"Hi, when you get a minute, I have something to share"
Examples:
"I have some time right now, what's up?", "I have some free time later to talk if that works for you."
Scenario: Rachel says to Jada, my favorite food is pizza." Rachel looks like she is about to say something else.
Whose turn is it to talk?
Rachel
When two people or a group of people are talking and you want to join their conversation, how do you join without stopping the conversation?
- Wait until there is a pause in their conversation
- Make a connected comment that is on topic
Casey wants to talk to Joey, so she says hi. Joey doesn’t look at her and turns his body away from her.
Did Joey drive or stop the conversation? How do you know?
Stop
Body language and eye contact
How to find a topic to talk about.
- Ask questions
- Find a common interest
- Use clues (maybe they are wearing a shirt with a band or movie on it, maybe they are carrying a book you like)
Respond to this conversation starter:
"Hi, I can't wait to tell you the news."
Examples:
"Hey, what news do you have?", "I can't wait to hear! Let's talk later when I have some free time."
Scenario: Julian says, "I have broccoli. It's the worst vegetable." Chris says, "I think carrots are the worst." Chris starts to tell a story about why he hates carrots.
Whose turn is it to talk?
Chris
Why is it important to use conversation drivers when talking to others?
- To show that you care
- To make the other person happy and comfortable
- To have an effective conversation
Michaela wants to talk to Drew and Sydney. She interrupts their conversation and starts talking about her favorite movie.
Did Michaela drive or stop the conversation? How do you know?
She interrupted them and changed the topic