What should l say?
Grandma gave me a toy train for Christmas. I don’t even like toy trains!
White lie and tell grandma Thank you for the gift. - You don't want to hurt her feelings
Your friend has bad breath
Say something supportive
You cheated on a test by looking at your neighbour's questions. The teacher asks if you copied anyone
“I did. I was afraid I was getting the answers wrong, so I looked at ____test”
My friend has a new haircut. I don't like it, but I tell my friend it looks ok.
My friend probably feels ok/calm/happy
You ask a friend to come over after school. They say they can't because their grandma is visiting. Later you find out their grandma didn't come
Upset
Annoyed
Joey took candy from the teacher's desk. The teacher thinks Ian took it.
Tell the truth- Telling the truth protects innocent people from being blamed or punished.
Your friend has dog poo stuck to their shoe
In private
Offer to help clean it
Your mom asks you where your mittens are? You’ve lost them. Again.
I lost them. I will check the bus/lost and found etc
I broke a picture at home. My mom asked what happened and I said my brother did it.
(How does mom and brother feel?
Mom- upset, angry, frustrated
Brother- loses trust, and doesn't want to be near me. Angry, upset
You are worried about going to the dentist. Your parents tell you that it will be a short visit and not a big deal. Don't worry about it
Either- relief. less worried
Or- Betrayed.
At recess, you got angry at someone and said something you regretted. That person got really upset and won't tell anyone what happened. A teacher asks you what happened.
Tell the truth- telling the truth allows the adults to learn what happened
Your friend wants to sing for the talent show. You have heard them sing. It's not their talent. You are afraid kids will laugh at them
In private
Ask them if there is a different talent they could do.
Ask them if they want you to help them practice
A friend is playing a nasty trick on another classmate. You know that your classmate will be hurt by the trick- but you don't want to tattle on your friend
Speak to the teacher in private. The safety of your classmates is more important
My dad asked me to walk the dog. I forgot and played video games instead. When he asked, I told him I did it already
(How do dad and the dogs feel)
Dad- Frustrated, Tired.
Dogs- Hyper. Sad. Now they won't get walked.
You decide to treat your parents and make breakfast in bed. You anciently added salt instead of sugar to their coffee. When your parents drink the coffee, they make a bit of a face but don't say anything. Instead, they eat the food and thank you so much for doing that for them.
Later, you hear them brag to their friends about how you surprised them with breakfast and they were so proud of you
Proud
Relief that a small mistake didn't ruin breakfast
Only a little embarrassed
Dad tried a new recipe for dinner- Turnip Tacos. He is really proud of it.
White lie- Thanks for making dinner dad.
OR Kind Truth- I can tell you worked hard on these. I think tacos taste even better with ______.
Your mom found her old dolls from when she was a kid. They are kinda creepy. She tells you how much she loved them and wonders if you would like to have them.
Tell her thanks; I know you love them. But they aren't my thing.
Your little brother made a craft at school. He is really proud of it. You could have made one better than that
Tell the truth about the parts that you can. “You worked really hard on that!”
Your friend has a new haircut and asks you if you like it. You don't like it so you tell her it looks absolutely terrible.
(how does your friend feel? How about the other kids?)
Friend- Shocked, upset
Other kids- Suprised, uncomfortable
Last week, someone forgot a phone in the library and it disappeared. The principal is trying to figure out who took it. Mike tells the principal that Steve took the phone. You know Steve was absent that day.
Uncomfortable
Don't trust Mike- if he lied about Steve, he might lie about me
Upset- Steve did nothing wrong
You got all the questions right on your math test. Your classmate didn't and they are feeling sad
White Lie- That was a hard test.
You don't want them feeling worse
In private, thank them for all the things they do for you. Ask them if next time you can do something different.
Your friend has a sticker stuck to their pants. A classmate points and laughs at them. Your friend asks you if you know why
Ya, you have a sticker stuck to you. I should have told you sooner.
My friend broke a rule at school. The teacher asks me what I saw. I said I didn't see anything
(how does friend, teacher and classmates feel?)
Friend- relieved that I lied for them. Stressed that they still need to keep secrets/keep lying
teacher- Loses trust in me, frustrated, upset
Classmates- lose trust. feel uncomfortable or betrayed
You let Bob borrow your hoodie. Bob wore it to the arena and forgot it. You ask him for your hoodie back and he tells you "I'll bring it tomorrow. It is in the wash"
Upset, betrayed, distrust, angry