Texting Etiquette
How long should you take to respond to a text message?
It depends on the situation. If you respond instantly to multiple messages in a row it might come off too strong. However, if you consistently take a long time to respond, it might convey that you're not interested.
What is a bully?
A bully is someone who repeatedly targets another person, either online, in person, or both, saying unkind words or doing unkind things
What is consent?
When both people agree to something, and they feel comfortable, it can be yes or no. It can be taken back at any time. It needs to be verbally stated
How many times is it okay to text someone in a row if they don't answer?
If someone does not respond, you can send a follow-up text. If they still don't respond, you might need to leave the conversation alone
When does teasing turn into bullying?
When it is done repeatedly, it crosses a boundary, and the person expresses discomfort, but the individual continues the behavior.
How do you know if you know if you're crossing a boundary?
The person looks visibly uncomfortable: their body language changes, their responses become short, and they sound irritated. If it is over text, they could stop responding or respond dryly.
You want to make plans with one of your friends and you use the group chat where other people you do not want to invite can see the messages. Is this expected or unexpected?
Unexpected. You should text them individually so the other members of the group chat don't feel bad
What are the steps to take if you feel like you're being bullied?
1. Try to assert yourself and tell the person to stop
2. Remove yourself from the situation
3. Tell a trusted adult (parent, teacher, or therapist)
4. If the situation does not improve, limit interactions with the individual
What can you do if someone crosses your boundary?
You can tell them that what they did made you feel uncomfortable so they know not to do it next time. If you feel really uncomfortable, you can remove yourself from the situation and tell a trusted adult.
If someone frequently takes a long time to text you back and responds with "dry" messages what might they be trying to communicate?
That they might not be interested in talking with you
What is the difference between bullying and cyberbullying? What are examples of cyberbullying?
They are similar, but cyberbullying occurs exclusively online.
Someone laughs at a joke but doesn't add anything and changes the subject. What could this mean?
They are uncomfortable with the topic, they don't want to talk about it anymore, they didn't understand the topic, etc...
Should you confirm a hangout before showing up at the place of the hangout (e.g. a friend's house, restaurant, or movie theatre)?
Yes. Confirming the plan is suggested because sometimes plans can be a loose suggestion rather than a concrete plan.
If you say a joke that makes others uncomfortable does that make you a bully?
No, however, if you are not taking the feedback and continue to make comments, it could turn into bullying.
What are ways to know what another person's boundary is without crossing it first?
Look for patterns in their behaviors and statements, pay attention to their body language and cues in social interactions, and ask them about themself in low-pressure ways.