General Guidelines
Why do we set limits?
To clarify the reality that there are certain types of behaviors that are prohibited and relieve the child from anxiety related to unclear expectations
When are limits needed?
Only as necessary
Only when they are needed
Is the following statement true or false...
Do limits provide physical and emotional security and safety for children?
Which model do we use for limit setting?
A-C-T model for limit setting
How should limits be set?
In a calm, patient, matter-of-fact, and firm way.
If the child's behavior is a harm to themselves or others is a limit needed?
Yes!
Are all behaviors accepted in child-centered play therapy?
No, but all feelings, wishes, and desires are accepted.
Give an an example of acknowledging a feeling.
I know you are/feel (excited, angry, sad, etc.) about...
Should limits be total or conditional? Explain.
Limits should be total versus conditional.
Do you provide children with a list of limits in the play room?
No, limits are set only when they are needed!
What do limits anchor the session to?
Reality
What does the C stand for in the ACT model?
Communicate the limit
How many times should you set a limit before moving on to choice-giving?
At least three times.
Is this a question to consider when setting limits?
- Does the child's behavior affect the relationship between the therapist and child?
Yes!
What is the objective in limit setting?
The objective of the therapist is not to stop the behavior, but rather, to facilitate the expression of the motivating feeling, want, or need in a more acceptable manner.
James is in the play session throwing the bowling pins. He looks in the mirror and you believe he is going to throw the bowling pin at the mirror and he does. Using the ACT model, set a limit for James.
James, you are (acknowledge feeling) about throwing the bowling ball. However (communicate the limit)...you can choose (target an alternative).