Experiments
A correct response to “I don’t know why we have to learn this. I am never going to need this when I get out of here.”
What is “what do you dream of being when you are an adult?
The child is allowed to do anything they want without consequences.
What is limits or boundaries
Noticing and commenting on what the student values to demonstrate that we care for them.
What is the one-sentence intervention.
Leading with this opens the door for parent to feel free to express their emotions.
What is empathy
“We never have these problems at home.”
What is denial.
“I believe in you so much that I feel the......"
What is "need to nag."
The student does not receive hugs or words of love from parents or family members
What is Unconditional Love.
A teacher describes what a student did right and says “how did you know to do that?
What is Placing primary emphasis on successes and gifts
Writing exactly what the parent is saying as they are doing this slows things down.
“You’re going to hear from my lawyer!”
What is anger.
When a student refuses to work the correct response is.....
What is “I’m such a great teacher that students can even learn when they aren’t doing any work. The sad thing is that they have nothing to hand in for a grade. Just let me know how I can help.”
The child is unsure of what house they are going, what there will be for dinner, or if their parent will be home.
What is Predictability
Use these as a way to assess a student’s academic anxiety or fear.
What are inquisitive conversations.
Love and Logic is about handling situations so well that we can consistently look in the mirror and say…...
What is a class act
“If my child just had another teacher, he’d be doing fine.”
What is bargaining.
When a parent asks, “Are you a parent?” You could respond with this...
What is “No… but I was a challenging kid. It’s a wonder that my parents survived all of those years.”
The student is unsure of their home situation or if there will be abuse that night.
What is Physical Health and Safety
In order to feel motivated to learn, a student must feel successful this much of the time.
What is 95%
Shift to move parents from the emotional state to the prefrontal cortex.
What is the thinking state.
“We’re so discouraged. We just don’t know what to do.”
What is depression.
When a parent asks sarcastically “How long have you been teaching?” The correct response is....
What is smiling confidently and saying, “I’ve been teaching for ___ and I use an approach that’s based on research and over one hundred years of combined experience. It’s called Love and Logic. It’s all about dignity and respect.
The child does not receive words of encouragement from family members and/or the child does not feel that they are capable of accomplishing dreams.
What is A Sense of Competence
A perspiration perspective that offers these three answers to the question “how did you do that”
What is:
I worked hard
I kept trying
I’ve been practicing.
Open this step by accurately identifying and suggesting many solutions.
What is problem solving.
“We love her so much, even though she is sometimes hard to love.”
What is acceptance.