How to Make a Friend
What can you do when you meet someone new?
Say Hi!
Introduce yourself
Ask what their name is
What can you talk to your friends about?
Activities, shows, music, sports, school...
Things you like AND things that they like!
How can we be kind to a friend?
Saying hi to them
Asking them questions
Listening to them
Asking them to sit with or hang out with us
How can you be a good friend in the classroom?
Don't distract your friends during class time
Let your friend borrow a supply if they need it
Try to help your friend if they ask for it
How will someone feel if we get too close to them or try to hug them without their permission?
They will feel uncomfortable and might not want to be friends with us if we don't respect their boundaries.
Where can you make a friend?
School
After school or outside of school activities
Sports practice
How do you introduce yourself?
Say "Hi!"
Tell them your name
Ask, "What's your name?"
What is a compliment you can give a friend?
You did a great job on ____!
I really like your (shirt, backpack, shoes...).
You're really good at ____!
How can we be a good friend at lunch?
Ask a friend to sit with you
Ask them about their day
Take turns talking and listening to each other
What are some examples of being mean?
Making rude comments
Ignoring someone when they talk
Calling someone names
Who is someone we might not make friends with?
Someone who: is not kind to us, is being unsafe, or tells us they do not want to be friends.
What should we NOT talk to friends about?
Things that we know make them sad or upset
Things that they are embarrassed or uncomfortable about
Personal or private topics that should just be talked about with family members or a doctor
What type of person do you want to be friends with?
Someone who is: kind, respectful, fun to be with, makes you feel comfortable, a good listener.
How can we be a good friend after school?
If you want to hang out with your friend after school, you can ask your parent to see if you can set it up.
If you have a phone, you can ask your friend if they would like to talk on the phone or text after school.
What could happen if we ONLY talk about ourselves and what we like?
People might get frustrated and not want to talk to you
People might feel like you don't care about them
People might think you only care about yourself
How close should our bodies be to someone when we want to make friends with them?
We need to give everyone personal space, and we need to be close enough that we can hear each other. That means we stay about an arm's length away from them. We don't touch others without their permission.
How do you tell a friend you want space?
-You can move your body away from them
-You can say, "I need some personal space, please"
What does it mean to respect someone's boundaries?
Respecting boundaries means giving people personal space and listening to them when they ask us not to do something.
If someone says they don't want to talk right now but we keep trying to talk to them, that is NOT respecting boundaries.
If you see a friend crying or putting their head down, what can you do to be a good friend?
Ask them, "What's wrong?" or "Do you want to talk?" They might not want to talk right then, but they will still know that you care.
You can also say, "I hope you feel better!"
What could happen if you are a "sore loser" during gym class or Unified sports?
Your friends might not want to play with you or be on your team anymore if you are not a good sport.
What are friend-making behaviors?
Things that we do or say that could make others want to be friends with us.
Being kind, asking questions, listening, and having safe behaviors are friend-making behaviors.
We should ask our friends questions about themselves and things that they like: True or false?
True! Asking your friends questions shows that you pay attention to them and care about them.
How does it feel when a friend comes up to you and asks you about your day or your activities?
It feels good when a friend wants to talk to us! We might feel happy, excited, or thankful that our friend cares about us.
Good friends can say mean things about their classmates behind their backs: True or false?
False. We should not say mean things about other people. If we are upset with someone, we can explain what the problem is, but we should not say rude things about the other person.
What are friend-losing behaviors?
Things that we do or say that could make others NOT want to be friends with us.
Being mean or selfish, only talking about ourselves, not listening, and having unsafe behaviors are friend-losing behaviors.