True/False
Calling your partner names or insulting them is abusive
True. This is abusive. Belittling someone can lower their self-worth and self-esteem, especially if you are belittling them to make them do what you want or because you know that it makes them feel bad about themselves.
Openly and respectfully discussing issues and disagreements non-judgmentally and respecting one another's opinions
Healthy Conflict
When someone says or does things to make you feel bad about yourself
Belittling
Hitting, slapping, shoving, grabbing, pinching, biting, hair pulling, etc.
Physical
It is harmless for men to not talk about their emotions or feelings
False. It is incredibly unhealthy for men to hold everything inside. Everyone has emotions and should have a safe outlet to talk about them.
It is healthy for your partner to always need to know where you are or what you're doing if they are doing it because they want to keep you safe
False. No matter what the 'reason' is, needing to stalk your partner's every move is possessive and controlling and is unhealthy and abusive.
You have the space to be yourself outside of the relationship. You can go where you want and do what you want with or without your partner.
Independence
When someone repeatedly makes excuses for their unhealthy behavior
Deflecting responsibility
Name calling, threatening, intimidation, constantly criticizing, making someone feel crazy or worthless, extreme jealousy
Emotional/Mental/Verbal
Making sexual jokes/comments about women is unhealthy.
True. Women are not objects and should be treated with respect. Not everything that goes through your mind should come out of your mouth.
Blaming all the issues in the relationship on your partner is abusive.
True. Gaslighting your partner into feeling that they are responsible for your problems is abusive, especially if you are doing this to make them do what you want.
Trust
When someone is jealous to the point that they try to control who you spend time with and what you do
Possessiveness
Coercing or forcing any sexual contact or behavior without consent
Sexual
Women cannot think logically and only act off of emotion
False. Women and men are equally logical and rational and have the same range of feelings and emotions.
It is healthy for your partner to wear what they want, hang out with who they want, and do what they want even if their partner doesn't like it
True. A healthy partner will never compromise the relationship no matter what they are wearing, who they are hanging out with or what they are doing. You and your partner have the right to make your own choices.
Owning your own actions and words
Taking Responsibility
When someone has really strong, unpredictable reactions that make you feel scared, confused or intimidated
Volatility
Controlling all of the money, not letting someone someone go to school or work, taking someone's money so they don't have any
Financial
It is unhealthy for men to act like a 'girl'. Have emotions or behave like a 'woman'.
False. Men and women have the same range of emotions and behaviors. It is unhealthy for men to always have to be a certain way to be seen as a 'real man'
The difference between unhealthy and abusive is control.
True. Abusive partners try to control their partner. Unhealthy partners are inconsiderate or selfish but don't try to control their partner's actions, thoughts, or life.
You can be truthful without fearing how the other will respond
Honesty
When someone tries to control your decisions, actions or emotions
Manipulation
Demanding to know your partner's passwords, harassing or threatening over the internet/phone, calling/texting your partner all of the time, stalking your partner through their phone location, Life360, SnapChat Map, etc.
Digital
It is unhealthy for men to make fun of friends or other men who don't 'man up' or behave the way that men are 'supposed' to.
True. Men come in all different shapes and sizes. It doesn't make anyone less of a man because they don't act like the stereotypical man.
If someone is being unhealthy or abusive it is because they are choosing to act that way. If they wanted to change, they would.
True. Being unhealthy or abusive is a CHOICE. Just like being a healthy partner is a CHOICE.
You are caring and empathetic to one another, and provide comfort and support
Kindness
When someone keeps you away from friends, family, or other people
Isolation
Not letting someone practice their religion or pray, forcing someone to convert to another religion, using religion as the reason for why one person gets to make all of the decisions and the other person can't.
Spiritual
It is perfectly healthy for a man to always need to be in control and be the 'man' in the relationship.
False. Men and women are EQUAL. A true, healthy relationship has two partners who support one another and recognize that both of them equally contribute in effort and decision-making.
Men cannot be victims of dating violence because they are physically stronger than women
False. Men can also be victims, regardless of physical strength. There are many other ways to be abusive, not just physically.
It is statistically likely that men will be the abusers, though, so it is up to all of you to choose to be a healthy partner.
The relationship feels balanced and everyone puts the same effort into the success of the relationship
Equality
When someone makes you feel responsible for their actions or makes you feel like its your job to keep them happy
Guilting
True/False: Doing or saying anything with the intent to control your partner is considered unhealthy and abusive, no matter what the reason is. For example, making them feel bad about themselves, telling them what to wear, who they can talk to, where they can go, what they can do.
True. You and your partner should be able to do what you want, when you want without fear of what the other will say or do. Equality, baby!
It is unhealthy for men to show fear or uncertainty
False. Men are human and experience the same range of emotions as women. It is healthy for men to also be able to express when they are scared or worried and be supported nonjudgementally