Love Languages
What are the 5 Love Languages?
1. Words of Affirmation
2. Quality Time
3. Gifts/Gift giving
4. Acts of Service
5. Physical Touch
In Sternberg's Triangular Theory of Love, what makes up Consummate Love?
1. Intimacy
2. Passion
3. Commitment
What are the 3 Attachment Styles?
1. Securely-Attached
2. Avoidantly-Attached
3. Anxiously-Attached
Divorce rates in the US are increasing, what are 3 out of the 7 reasons for why this is happening?
1. Expecting more from marriage.
2. Working women have more financial freedom, and more access to attractive alternatives (also have conflict between work and families).
3. Individualism and social mobility leave us less affected by community norms that discourage divorce.
4. Laws have made divorce more socially acceptable, and easier to obtain (no fault divorce).
5. Casual cohabitation weakens commitment to marriage.
6. Children of divorce are more likely to divorce in adulthood.
7. More people have friends who are divorced.
What are the "4 Horsemen of the Apocalypse" in relationships?
1. Criticism
2. Contempt
3. Stonewalling
4. Defensiveness
"Actions, rather than words, are used to show and receive love". What love language does this refer to?
Acts of Service
Companionate Love lacks what aspect of Sternberg's Triangle?
Passion.
Which attachment style is represented by the "anchor"?
Securely-Attached
In the US, ~45-50% of 1st marriages end in divorce, and ~75% of 3rd marriages end in divorce. What is the approximate range of 2nd marriages that end in divorce?
~60-65%
What is the antidote to contempt?
Build a culture of appreciation.
Ellar prefers to immediately go to their partner's house after work, and spend their weekends together doing puzzles. What is Ellar's preferred love language?
Darla is in a relationship with Kari. Darla feels both passion and commitment, but feels the relationship lacks intimacy. What type of love does their relationship have?
Fatuous Love.
Krista is very independent, she doesn't look for affection from others, and doesn't want to depend on them either. She experiences more interpersonal stress, and tends to look towards the future instead of the present or past. What type of attachment style does she embody?
Atara's mother, Fatima, has Alzheimer's Disease and no longer remembers Atara when she comes to visit.
Kendrick's sister, Jenna, went missing last year and has still not been found.
What type of loss are Kendrick and Atara experiencing?
Ambiguous loss.
Withdrawing to avoid conflict and to convey disapproval, distance, and separation. This is which of the 4 Horsemen of the Apocalypse?
Stonewalling.
Dancing together, holding hands, and cuddling. These are examples of what love language?
Physical Touch
What is the emotional dimension of love called?
Intimacy.
Cassy is very happy when she is around other people, her friends would describe her as generous and giving, she wants to connect more with those around her, but she is unsure if others want to connect with her--but that doesn't stop her from caring for others. What attachment style does Cassy embody?
Anxiously-Attached
Helen was very sad that her partner, Philip, never posted her on his Instagram. Suspicious, she went through his phone and read his messages with every girl in his contacts list. Eventually, Philip broke up with Helen via email. What was the main stressor of their relationship?
Technology.
Ozzy constantly attacks his partner, Faustina's personality and character. Ozzy says that Faustina's makeup is gaudy and attention-seeking, he also says that she is too outspoken and bossy. Which of the 4 Horsemen of the Apocalypse is he engaging in?
Criticism.
Rafferty likes to bring his partner, Siro, home blankets because he knows Siro can get very cold. Rafferty also likes to bring home dinner for Siro on weekends. Siro, however, feels more connected when they openly converse their feelings together. How does Rafferty express his love, and how does Siro prefer to receive love?
Rafferty expresses his love through gift giving.
Siro prefers to receive love with words of affirmation.
In their relationship, Azaria and Rick feel intimacy, passion, and compassion in a ratio of 3:8:8, and 4:7:7, respectively.
Which couple is more likely to feel satisfied in their relationship?
Azaria and Rick.
Shelton entered his first relationship with Julie fearing that she would eventually leave him. Shelton would get jealous very easily, and was afraid of connecting with her even though he wanted to. Overtime, Shelton had a more easy time getting close to Julie, and no longer had a fear of being abandoned. What attachment style did he have going into the relationship, and what did it transform into?
Terry's parents are happily married, and he is currently living with his girlfriend who he has been with since college.
Caroline's parent's are divorced, she is a Baptist, and she lives Arkansas.
Who is more likely to get divorced?
Caroline is more likely to get divorced.
Sofia tells her partner, Javier, that she is upset that he never helps clean around the house. Javier says he is always too tired after working 6 hours a day to help. After a conversation, Javier acknowledges how frustrating the lack of help must be for Sofia, and he apologizes for not offering more help. Which one of the 4 Horsemen did Javier engage in, and which antidote did he eventually use?
Defensiveness, and taking responsibility.