Scenarios
Bob's teacher tells him to get to work on his math test. Bob struggles with math, so he screams at the teacher, and throws his chair at his friend. Is this a healthy response or and unhealthy response?
An unhealthy response
Sally's friend, Mike, tries to pressure her to vape. Mike says that it's okay to vape if it's just one time and that if she tries once, he won't ask again. Sally knows vaping, even once, is dangerous. Apply the decision making model to identify the problem.
Mike is trying to pressure Sally to vape
Define stressor
Something/someone that causes stress
What do you have to bring to class by Tuesday?
A one subject notebook and a folder
Katie's sister stole her favorite shirt and ruined it. Katie almost freaked out and screamed, but instead she took a deep breath and talked about how she was upset with her sister and her dad. She made sure her dad was there to be the mediator. What was Katie's response and was it a healthy response?
Response: Deep breath, talking it out, found a mediator
Healthy or unhealthy: Healthy
You are friends with a kid named Steve, who is being bullied. You are also friends with the bullies. You want to stand up for Steve, but you are worried that the bullies won't take it well. Apply the decision-making model and determine the positive and negative consequences of standing up for Steve.
Positive: Steve is no longer bullied; Steve knows he can trust you and you form a close friendship; You know you did a good thing
Negative: You start to get bullied; You lose your friends who were the bullies; You live with the guilt
Define threat
The fear of being physically and/or emotionally harmed
A little puppy is playing in the house. All of a sudden his owner starts to use the vacuum and the puppy freaks out. What is the stressor and what type of stress is the puppy experiencing?
Stressor: The vacuum
Type of stress: Threat
What day is your quiz?
Tuesday
No she did not.
The negative consequences outweigh the positive ones.
This was a bad decision based on the decision making model.
You have football practice after school, but your friends are going to a movie. You have been to every other practice, but if you miss one you don't get to play. But you have also really wanted to see this movie for a long time and your friends want you to go. Use the decision-making model to gather the relevant information and identify some alternatives to help solve this problem. Also, what kind of stress is this (think 2 opposing needs)
Relevant info: You've never missed practice; You don't get to play if you miss practice; You've wanted to go see the movie for a while; Your friends want you to go with them.
Alternatives: Suggest a later movie time; Suggest a different day to see the movie; tell your friends you can't go this time, but next time you guys should work together to pick a time you don't have practice.
Type of stress: Conflict
Define conflict
List at least 5 of the 6 most common stressors for teens
School & grades
Family issues
Body image
Finances
Popularity
Siblings
Sort the physical effects of stress and the emotional effect of stress:
Stomach ache
Loss of enthusiasm
Apathy
Headaches
Pale complexion
Feeling overwhelmed
Short-temper
Sleepiness
Moodiness
Tight/sore muscles
Shaky hands
Excessive worry
Rapid breathing
Forgetfulness
Sweating
Physical: Stomach ache, Headaches, Pale complexion, Sleepiness, Tight/sore muscles, Shaky hands, Rapid breathing, Sweating
Emotional: Loss of enthusiasm, Apathy, Feeling overwhelmed, Short-temper, Moodiness, Excessive worry, Forgetfulness
Tommy's parents are getting a divorce, and he's really stressed out about it. He can’t stop thinking about what’s going to happen to his family. He doesn’t feel like hanging out with any of his friends and he yells at anyone who tries to talk to him since "they won't understand what he's going through." He doesn't know what to do to get this knot out of his stomach. What is the stressor? How does Tommy respond? Is it a healthy response? If not, what could he have done differently? What are his physical and emotional effects of stress?
Stressor: Parent's divorce
Response: Withdrawing/isolating, overthinking/excessive worrying, lashing out/yelling
Healthy or unhealthy: Unhealthy
What could he have done differently: Spoken to his parents, spoken to a counselor or trusted adult, taken deep breaths, exercised before talking to calm down, hung out with friends, spend time doing activities he enjoys, etc.
Physical effects: Stomach ache
Emotional effects: Short-temper, excessive worrying, moodiness
You are a New York Ranger about to play in the Stanley Cup. Days before the big game, you are experiencing a certain type of stress that makes you feel motivated to practice. What type of stress is this?
Then, right before the game, you start to panic. Shaky hands, rapid breathing, and doubting yourself. What type of stress is this? What are some stress relief strategies you can use to calm down and ease the stress?
2. Distress. Deep breaths, visualizing a win, focus on your strengths, talk to your teammates/coach
Define pressure and frustration
Pressure is having to measure up to an expectation or standard. Frustration is the inability to get your needs met.
Anne is usually an awesome volleyball player. Lately, she has been worried about her parent's divorce, so she has not been focusing during practice and she keeps missing the ball. She starts to skip practice and won't speak to her team. What is the stressor? Is this a healthy response? What could she do instead?
Stressor: Parent's divorce
Healthy or Unhealthy: Unhealthy
What could she do instead: Speak to her parents, speak to a counselor or teacher, continue going to practice and explain the situation to her coach, turn to friends
Sort the healthy stress responses and the unhealthy responses:
Overeating or undereating
Withdrawing/Isolating
Talking to a trusted adult
Lashing out
Sleeping too much
Drugs
Exercising
Taking deep breaths
Partying all night and ignoring your problems
Doing things you like (Treat yo' self)
Violence
Screaming/Yelling
Surrounding yourself with friends
Drinking alcohol
Therapy
Visualizing/Picturing a positive scenario
Healthy: Talking to a trusted adult, exercising, taking deep breaths, doing things you like (Treat yo' self), surrounding yourself with friends, therapy, visualizing/picturing a positive scenario
Unhealthy: Overeating or undereating, withdrawing/isolating, lashing out, drugs, partying all night and ignoring your problems, violence, screaming/yelling, drinking alcohol
Bob has been stressed for a while. Recently, he has been having an upset stomach, a short-temper, headaches, shaky hands, angry/sad moods, rapid breathing, and has been extremely exhausted. Identify the physical effects of stress that he is feeling, and the emotional effects of stress that he is feeling.
Physical: Upset stomach, headaches, shaky hands, rapid breathing, exhaustion
Emotional: Short-temper and angry/sad moods
Melanie feels insecure about her appearance because of what she sees on social media. She stops eating because she is stressed about her appearance. She knows this is dangerous, that most of those posts are photoshopped, and that she is medically a healthy weight, but she is so stressed that she has trouble applying the decision-making model to this situation. As her friend, help her apply each step of the decision making model to her situation.
Identify the problem: Melanie is insecure about her appearance because of social media.
Gather relevant info: Not eating is dangerous, most posts are photoshopped, she is medically a healthy weight.
Consider the alternatives: Speak with a counselor, talk to her parents, turn to friends for positive reassurance.
Identify the positive and negative consequences of not eating enough: Positive - losing weight; Negative - not keeping the weight off; starving; medical issues; poor academic performance; lower energy; moodiness; death.
Determine who is affected by the decision: Melanie, her loved ones
Determine who is influencing the decision: social media
Make an informed decision: Go speak to a counselor and keep eating healthily.
Evaluate the decision: Good decision
What is the difference between eustress and distress? Define both
Eustress is a positive version of stress that motivates you. Distress is a negative version of stress that causes you to feel anxious and/or overwhelmed.
Is eustress a kind of stressor?
NO it is a kind of stress
Name the 8 steps of the decision-making model
1. Identify the problem
2. Gather relevant info
3. Consider the alternatives
4. Assess positive and negative consequences
5. Determine who is affected by the decision
6. Determine who is influencing the decision
7. Make an informed decision
8. Evaluate the decision