Marriage & Dating
Explain Friesen's view of finding a spouse
As long as I am walking with the Lord and working on me, any number of potential partners could be the "right one" for me.
What was one method we described as a positive coping mechanism for anger?
Physical exertion/exercise
Approximately what percentage of communication is done verbally?
10-20%
What kind of problem is it (type of conflict) what one person wants things one way and the other person wants them a different way
Preference problems
What was the first rule to a fair fight?
Agree on the timing
What effect, typically, does marriage for love have on families?
More potential tension, more potential problems, less potential understanding
What is the following a definition for? "The more you invest in a relationship, the more stable and satisfying it will be."
Emotional Capital
What level of communication is used when we speak in overused phrases that are unoriginal?
Cliche
What are facial expressions called?
Affect Displays
What did we say about humor when it comes to a fair fight?
Never lose sight of how ridiculous it is to see two adults fighting. It's absurd and faintly amusing
What are the positives for arranged marriage?
Mutual understanding between families, more connected-ness between families
What "Big C" describes the spiritually foundational things in a relationship?
Convictions
Communication fails often. What does this say about it?
What are specific hand gestures that give meanings called? (thumbs up)
Emblems
What did we say about privacy when concerning a fair fight?
Keep it private, between the two parties. Unless you can mutually agree to bring in a third opinion.
Of the three social functions for dating, which one describes "having fun"
Recreation
Why did we take two class days to do the Enneagram?
To help you locate the source of your identity. To better understand yourself.
Communication happens in different types of relationships. What does this say about communication?
It is contextual
What is it called when we touch our faces to illustrate negative emotion?
Adapters
List three examples of counterproductive coping strategies when trying to deal with conflict
blame-shifting, denial, avoidance, nagging, bickering, intimidation, manipulation
What is the definition for dating (wording matters)
Dating is the custom of a man and a woman conducting unchaperoned social excursions.
What was our definition for the Enneagram?
Personality test illustrating the nine archetypal human character structures
What level of communication involves sacrificing for the other person and relational empowerment?
Mutual Empathy
What is non-verbal communication that's done through movement called?
Kinesics
What kind of (types of conflict) is it what we problems that arise from poorly handled arguments?
Process Problems