SPEAKING UP FOR YOURSELF
Your friend didn't invite you to their birthday party. What's one way you could respond?
A) Get really angry and yell at them
B) Talk to them calmly about how you feel
C) Never talk to them again
D) Ignore them at school
ANSWER: B — Talk to them calmly about how you feel
BONUS: "What's one thing you could say to them when you talk calmly?"
Your friend is upset. What's the first thing you should do?
A) Tell them to stop crying
B) Ask them what's wrong
C) Walk away and leave them alone
D) Make a joke to make them laugh
ANSWER: B — Ask them what's wrong
BONUS: "After you ask what's wrong, what should you do next?"
What's one feeling you might have if you won a game?
A) Sad
B) Happy or excited
C) Angry
D) Tired
ANSWER: B — Happy or excited
How do you politely ask to join a game?
A) Push into the game without asking
B) Say "Can I play?" with a nice voice
C) Stand and watch without saying anything
D) Tell them they're not fun
ANSWER: B — Say "Can I play?" with a nice voice
You want to join a game at free time but don't know anyone playing. What could you do?
A) Stand alone and watch
B) Go tell a teacher you have no friends
C) Walk up and ask "Can I play?"
D) Push someone out of the way to get in
ANSWER: C — Walk up and ask "Can I play?"
Two students want the same book. What's one fair way to solve this?
A) One person takes it and the other doesn't get it
B) They fight over it
C) They take turns reading it
D) Throw the book away
ANSWER: C — They take turns reading it
What's one thing you can do when you feel frustrated?
A) Yell really loud
B) Hit someone
C) Take deep breaths or take a walk
D) Throw things
ANSWER: C — Take deep breaths or take a walk
BONUS: Can you show what taking deep breaths looks like?
What does it mean to take turns?
A) You go first and everyone else waits
B) One person does something, then another person gets a turn
C) Everyone does it at the same time
D) Only your friends get a turn
ANSWER: B — One person does something, then another person gets a turn
A classmate keeps borrowing your supplies without asking. How would you handle it?
A) Steal their supplies back
B) Tell them they need to ask you first
C) Never talk to them again
D) Hide all your supplies
ANSWER: B — Tell them they need to ask you first
Your classmate says you were mean, but you didn't mean to be. What should you do?
A) Tell them they're wrong
B) Say "I'm sorry, I didn't mean to hurt your feelings"
C) Ignore them
D) Be mean back to them
ANSWER: B — Say "I'm sorry, I didn't mean to hurt your feelings"
You're feeling worried or nervous. What are 2 things that could help you feel calm?
A) Deep breathing AND listening to music
B) Yelling AND running around
C) Hitting a pillow AND screaming
D) Staying alone AND being mad
ANSWER: A — Deep breathing AND listening to music
Other good answers: drinking water, sitting quietly, talking to someone, squeezing a stress ball, drawing
Your friend wants to play a game you don't like. What's a kind way to say no?
A) "That's a dumb game"
B) "I don't like that game, but thanks for asking"
C) "No way, you're weird"
D) Ignore them and walk away
ANSWER: B — "I don't like that game, but thanks for asking"
You made a mistake on a group project. How could you speak up for yourself?
A) Blame someone else
B) Say nothing and hope no one notices
C) Tell the group what happened and offer to fix it
D) Throw your work away
ANSWER: C — Tell the group what happened and offer to fix it
A friend keeps getting frustrated during games. How might they be feeling? What could help?
A) They're happy and winning
B) They're angry or upset because they're losing
C) They don't like you
D) They want to go home
ANSWER: B — They're angry or upset because they're losing
You could help by: letting them take a break, playing a different game, or cheering them on
What's the difference between being excited and being frustrated?
A) They're the same thing
B) Excited = happy and smiley; Frustrated = angry and upset
C) Excited = sad; Frustrated = happy
D) There is no difference
ANSWER: B — Excited = happy and smiley; Frustrated = angry and upset
Your friend is sad or upset. What's one way to be a good friend?
A) Make fun of them
B) Tell them to stop being sad
C) Listen to them AND ask how you can help
D) Leave them alone
ANSWER: C — Listen to them AND ask how you can help
You're uncomfortable with something a peer is asking you to do. What's one thing you could say?
A) "No, I don't want to do that"
B) "Okay, fine" (even though you don't want to)
C) Say nothing and just do it
D) Push them away
ANSWER: A — "No, I don't want to do that"
Your classmate is standing alone. What might they be thinking?
A) "I'm so happy"
B) "I wish someone would play with me" or "I feel left out"
C) "I love being alone"
D) "Everyone is mean to me"
ANSWER: B — "I wish someone would play with me" or "I feel left out"
You're feeling frustrated. What might have made you feel this way, and what could you do about it?
A) You won a game / celebrate
B) You lost a game or couldn't do something / take a break or ask for help
C) You made a new friend / nothing, just keep playing
D) Nothing bothers you / ignore it
ANSWER: B — You lost a game or couldn't do something / take a break or ask for help
How do you start and keep a friendly conversation going?
A) Say hi AND ask them a question AND listen to their answer
B) Talk only about yourself
C) Don't make eye contact AND look bored
D) Interrupt them while they're talking
ANSWER: A — Say hi AND ask them a question AND listen to their answer
BONUS: What's a good question you could ask a friend?