Family Matters
Which is better to reinforce: effort or outcome?
Effort.
Effort teaches skills which are more likely to create good outcomes.
the act of expressing approval, admiration, or commendation for someone or something
giving praise
True or false: DEAR Man is based off the ancient eastern-European mythology of a deer-like man communicating to villages and expressing his hunger for lots of plants to eat.
False
a person's principles or standards of behavior; one's judgment of what is important in life.
a value
What is the capital of France?
Paris
What is the term used to describe this family role: A child who is easygoing, quiet, and overlooked
Lost Child
What are the 4 "what-to-do's" of setting boundaries?
Use confident body language
Be respectful
Plan Ahead
Compromise
What does the "D" in DEAR Man stand for?
Describe
the quality of being thankful; readiness to show appreciation for and to return kindness
Gratitude
Which planet is known as the "red" planet?
Mars
Which of these is not a family role:
The Hero
The Caretaker
The Golden Child
The Addict
The Bridge-mender
The Martyr
The Bridge-mender
Which of these "I" statements is the least useful:
1) I feel worried when you're coming home late. I can't even sleep.
2) I feel hurt when you go so long without calling. I'm afraid you don't care.
3) I feel anxious when plans start changing at the last minute.
4) I feel like when you play video games you're never listening to what I say.
5) I feel disrespected when I'm interrupted speaking.
6)
Number 4: instead of expressing how you feel, it accuses the other person of a pattern of behavior.
False: DEAR MAN is about expressing your wants and needs in a way that is respectful to yourself AND others.
the quality or state of being conscious or aware of something.
mindfulness
How many continents are there on earth?
Seven
True
Explain 3 benefits of using praise in a relationship.
Builds trust, improves self-esteem, and encourages positive behavior.
True or false: The A in "DEAR MAN" stands for assess.
A in DEAR MAN stands for Assert.
According to this list, which statement accurately describes what self-esteem IS:
Being perfect
Never making a mistake
Always being happy
Having everyone's approval
Liking yourself
Looking good
Liking yourself
What is the largest ocean on earth?
The Pacific Ocean
What is emotional rescuing as an unhealthy family dynamic?
Trying to avoid and get rid of your child's emotions or distress due to your own discomfort with it or inability to withstand it. All emotions are valid and normal, feeling all emotions are okay.
What are the 5 maintenance behaviors strongly associated with successful relationships. Get at least 4 correct.
Positivity
Openness
Assurances
Task-Sharing
Social network
What does each letter in the Acronym DEAR MAN stand for? And describe at least what 2 letters mean.
D - Describe: clearly and concisely describe the facts of the situation, without any judgement
E - Express: Use "I" statements to express your emotions.
A - Assert: clearly state what you want or need. Be specific when giving instructions or making requests
R - Reinforce: Reward the other person if they respond well to you
M - Mindfulness: Being mindful of your goal means not getting sidetracked or distracted by other issues
A - Appear confident: use body language to show confidence, even if you don't feel it
N - Negotiate: Know the limits of what you are willing to accept, but be willing to compromise within them.
how you think about, describe, and present yourself
identity
What is the smallest country in the world?
Vatican City