Mindfulness
The Wise Mind
The balance between emotional and reasonable mind
List the what skills.
Observe, Describe, Participate
List the How skills
Who is in the arena?
ME/US
Brene Brown definition of personal boundaries
What is ok and What is not ok
Aggressive words and actions is an over expansion of this state of mind.
The Emotional mind
Noticing your body sensations, paying attention on purpose, wordless watching.
Observe
See, but don't evaluate as good or bad, accept each moment, Acknowledge the differences, but don't judge them
Nonjudgmentally
Brene Brown says Vulnerability is a true measure of...
Courage
Secrecy, Silence, Judgement is a way we keep ourselves in shame. What is a boundary we set to decrease our shame?
Speak your truth/Speak up
Be compassionate and kind with yourself
Spock from Star Trek series operated from only this state of mind.
Reasonable/Rational mind
Putting words on the experience, labeling what is observed, ungluing interpretations and opinions from the facts.
Describe
Do one thing at a time, focused on the now, concentrate your mind.
One-mindfully
"It is not the critic who counts...."
And what is this quote saying? (Bonus)
The Man (person) in the Arena quote or the Teddy Roosevelt quote.
What (healthy thing) is sustainable without boundaries?
Nothing
2 skill sets that comprise Mindfulness
The WHAT skills and HOW skills.
Throwing yourself completely into activities of the current moment, becoming one with whatever you are doing, going with the flow.
Participate
Be mindful of your goals in the situation, focus on what works, act as skillfully as you can , let go of willfulness .
Effectively
True or False: Not many people shame themselves. (Mostly, people in this program, or in therapy)
False. Almost everyone does self shaming
Who is helped most by me assuming the best about others?
ME
Give an example of being not effective when being mindful.
EG. taking a nature (mindful) walk and talking on the phone, or looking at your phone when in group or while someone else is talking, or being unaware of current most important goal
Are what skills done separately or all at once/all the time.
Separately
Are How skills done separately or all at once/all the time?
All the time
What is the difference between guilt and shame?
Guilt is: "I did something bad/wrong"
Shame is: "I am something bad/wrong"
Brene's acronym: BIG
(BONUS)
"What boundaries do I need to set, to stay in my integrity, and make the most generous assumptions about you"