ABA
A coach (BI) has to cancel a session
Little deal - they will see you on another day
Mom says no to dessert
Little deal - you can have dessert on another day
New people are coming into the home ( coaches, doctors, nurses, etc.) to visit mom.
Little deal - It's okay. I know they may seem like strangers but, they are here to help mom feel better
Someone tells you to turn down the TV
Little deal - turn the TV down to be polite. It's important to share the space we live in with everyone. If you feel upset, use coping skills.
Someone says, first we need to work and then we can choose a fun activity
Little deal - use coping skills
Mom is busy with work but you want to tell her something
Little deal - you can wait for mom to be done. You can ask for help writing it down so you don't forget.
The starbucks Barista tells you, "I am sorry we are all out of frappuccinos"
Little deal - It's ok, you can choose someone else or ask them whatt else they have
Someone says " no marvel books until after dinner"
Little deal - It is okay, I know how much you enjoy Marvel but it is important to eat first to ensure we are strong like all those marvel characters.
You have a new coach (BI)
Big deal - New friends are fun but also can make you nervous. Be nice and use coping skills while you get to know your new friend.
Mom gets hurt
Big deal - use coping skills to stay calm, ask for help from an adult if they are around. Help mom and do what she asks of you.
Someone moves dishes while you are putting them away
Little deal - this doesn't mean I am doing a bad job. I an use my words and ask them to stop.
A caregiver has to take a day off
Little deal - sometimes people have things they need to do or get sick, and its ok. You will have someone else help you that day.
A coach (BI) leaves the case, you won't see them again.
Big deal - This is a big change, but change is part of life. Coaches and other helpers will come and go but I can use coping skills (talk about my feelings, use deep breaths, ask for a hug from mom) and make new friends when old ones leave.
Mom takes away your tablet
little deal - I can make good choices and earn it back
Crossfit is cancelled for today
Little deal - you can go next time. You can exercise at home if you still want to move your body.
A caregiver stops working with me
Big deal - This feels bad but it is a part of life and we need to remember that we will be ok. Caregivers will come and go but we can use coping skills to help us feel better (like talking about our feelings, remembering the good times, taking deep breaths, getting hugs from mom). Also remember that we will make new friends when old ones leave.
Someone tells you to do something you don't like
Little deal - you can use your words and let her know. You can use coping skills and calm yourself down.
Mom goes on a business trip and leaves me home with caregivers or grandma
Big deal - This can be upsetting but I am okay staying home with my caregivers or grandma. I can use coping skills and talk to someone if I feel sad and miss mom. I can also call mom on the phone.
Your schedule changes without you knowing
Little deal - sometimes changes happen and you have to be flexibe. You can use coping skills if you feel upset.
Someone threw away something you wanted
Little deal - I can ask them why they threw it away and ask to get it back. If its not ok to keep (because it is trash) I can use coping skills to help with feelings and move on.