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Avoiding Trouble with Others
Avoiding Trouble with Others
This is Step 1
Decide if you are in a situation that could lead to trouble for you
This is Step 1
Think about what the other person has accused you of
The 3 main steps for the skill of Problem Solving
1) Identify your problem and goal 2) Brainstorm options and choose the best one 3) Plan and try your solution
The two types of problems we learn about in this module. (Hint: has to do with immediacy, or time)
Now and later
To remain sober, I have to make this a top priority
Recovery
This is Step 2
Remind yourself of your goals to be successful
This is Step 2
Think about why the person might have accused you
The problem can be ______ (outside) barriers, ______ (inside) barriers), or a _________ between two or more people.
Turning a now problem into a later problem will give me time to do 2 things.
Get out of the immediate situation and think through how to best handle the problem.
We admitted we were powerless over our addiction, our lives had become unmanageable
Step 1 of Narcotics Anonymous
This is Step 3
Think of different ways to tell the person "No"
This is Step 3
Think about ways to answer the person's accusation
Delay
When mapping out the steps I need to do to carry out my best solution, I also have to think about possible _________.
Barriers
When we do ________ in the Ke Alaula Therapeutic Community, it is an example of making a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves and promptly admitting it when we are wrong
Pull-ups, accountability
This is Step 4
Tell the other person you cannot engage in the activity
Choose the best way and do it
____________ means to think about all the possible solutions, realistic or unrealistic. Weighing the pros and cons of each option is an important part of this.
Brainstorming
What kind of communication can help me when problem solving?
Assertive (what does assertive mean?)
A _______ or _______ plan is something that can help me know my triggers, know my coping strategies, and know my sources of support.
Crisis / safety
When making prosocial life changes, it is important to reassess relationships with __________ and _________
Friends and associates (people you hang out with)
It is important to manage our ________ when we are dealing with an accusation.
Emotions
Doing this will help me to know what the steps are to carry out the option I chose. I can also think of the What, When, Where, and How questions when I do this.
Planning
When I think about the pros and cons, outcomes, or consequences of each option, I am doing this step in Problem Solving.
Step 2) Braintorm possible solutions and pick one
I can prevent relapse by being aware of my external and my internal _________ .
Triggers