The 90-Second Rule
Triggers & Button Pushers
What's Under Anger?
Observer Self
100

How long do stress chemicals related naturally stay in the body after a trigger?

What is 90 seconds

100

What phrase do people often use when they feel triggered?

What is "They pushed my buttons"?

100

Anger is often a secondary emotion.

What is true?

100

The observer self watches emotions without becoming them.

What is true?

200

What keeps anger alive after the first 90 seconds?

What is replaying the story?

200

According to what we said, buttons are connected to this.

What are unhealed wounds?

200

Anger protects emotions such as hurt, fear, and this.

What is shame?

200

How would using your observer self help during an argument?

It helps you step back, notice you're getting upset, and think before you say or do something you'll regret.

300

Give an example of a thought that could keep anger going after the initial trigger.

Answers can be different

300

Name three of your triggers and one for your teammate.

answers can be different

300

Describe a time when you felt angry but later realized you were actually hurt, embarrassed, or disappointed.

Can be different

300

What question does the video suggest asking before reacting?

What response would I be proud of tomorrow?