Pretending like you're interested when you're not.
100
What is communication?
Communication means interacting with people (whether you're talking to them or not)- we are always sending a message (verbal and non-verbal) when we 'share space' with other people.
100
What are 3 'good friend' behaviors?
Share
Ask Questions
Comment
Remember things
Compliment
Be kind
Listen
Be flexible
Compromise
200
Unexpected behaviors cause ___________thoughts
Uncomfortable
200
What is an action plan?
Something you DO!
200
Why do we use the social fake?
So other people have comfortable thoughts about us!
200
Which aspect of communication plays the biggest part in the impression we make on other people... VERBAL or NON-VERBAL?
Non-Verbal
200
What are THREE unexpected friendship behaviors (bad friend behaviors).
Tattling
Name Calling
Being Bossy
Pushing/Shoving
Unexpected Behaviors
Interrupting
Teasing
Spreading Rumors
Yelling
Name Calling
Put Downs
Accusing
Blaming
300
What kind of thoughts do we want people to have about us? What kind of behaviors should we demonstrate so people have those thoughts?
Comfortable thoughts.
We have to use expected behaviors so other people have comfortable thoughts about us.
300
What are inner coach thoughts?
Things you tell yourself to make you feel good!
300
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300
What is the difference between verbal and non-verbal communication?
Verbal communication uses WORDS.
Non-Verbal communication does not use words (facial expression, tone of voice, gestures, space, volume, appearance, eye-contact, body-language).
300
What is the very first thing we need to do when we are trying to make a new friend? (HINT: non-verbal communication)
LOOK friendly
400
WHY do we use social behavior maps? How do they help us?
Give at least THREE reasons.
reflect on our unexpected behavior
think about OTHER peoples’ thoughts/feelings
understand the consequences of our actions
identify the expected behavior
create comfortable thoughts in others
increase independence
make positive choices
avoid getting in trouble
400
What are self-defeating comments?
EXCUSES you tell yourself that make you feel bad and then you don't try :(
400
WHEN and with WHO do we use the social fake?
EVERYDAY with EVERYONE
400
What percentage of communication is non-verbal?
Hint: it's between 90 and 100 percent!
93%
400
What does the word CONFLICT mean?
A conflict is an argument, fight, difference of opinion, or disagreement.
500
How do we turn a social behavior map into an action plan?
We create an action plan by taking our 'unexpected behavior' and figuring out what the 'expected behavior' is in the same situation. Then we challenge ourselves to USE that expected behavior the next time we are in that situation.
500
Create an action plan for the unexpected behavior "I cussed out my friend, I was really mean"
Action Plan:
Self-Defeating Comments:
Inner Coach Thoughts:
When/Where to Accomplish my Plan:
Action Plan: I will apologize to my friend (and mean it!)
I will give my friend compliments
I will use my social fake
SDC: "I hate them!"
"they're wrong, and i'm right!"
"I don't care what they think!"
ICT: "I want people to have comfortable thoughts about me!"
"I am going to be mature and responsible"
"I am a nice person"
W/W: Next time I see my friend.
500
HOW do we use the social fake (verbal AND non-verbal examples!)
Pop only green thought bubbles in to our speech bubble, pay attention to non-verbal language (look at the person, nod, smile, ask thinking about you questions, etc.)
500
What are FOUR types of non-verbal communication?
Facial Expression, Tone of Voice, Body Language, Gestures, Volume, Appearance, Eye-Contact
500
What is the friendship peer-a-mid?
A visual that looks like a pyramid and shows the different 'levels' of friendship. We don't go from strangers to besties- there's many levels in between. We have to do many things to go from one level to the next (look friendly, remember information about other people, try new activities, use the social fake...).