Behavior
What is Respect?
Treating someone with kindness and acting in a way that is thoughtful of the other person's feelings/needs.
True or False
If someone else calls me a name, it is their fault if I say it back or push them.
FALSE!
I am still responsible for my actions and words.
True or false
It is a bad thing to walk away from a friend when I am angry.
FALSE!
Sometimes walking away is needed to stay in control of your action/words and calm down.
What does the Red light on the Stoplight Method for solving problems mean?
"Stop"
Calm yourself and think about how the other person might be feeling, too.
What is expected?
Something that is a normal, known reaction/expectation.
What are the 4 parts of Whole Body Listening that we learned about from "The Biscotti Kid"
Eyes watching, ears listening, voice quiet, body calm.
What does Responsibility mean?
Responsibility is being accountable for your own choices. It also means that you are in control of your words and actions. The consequences of your choices are your responsibility to handle.
What feelings are bad to have? (Think really hard)
Trick questions! No feelings are bad. Whatever we feel is ok! It is what we do with the feeling that makes the difference!
What does the Green Light stand for in the Stoplight Method?
The Green light means Choose! You would choose your next actions/words after a conflict.
What is unexpected?
Something that is a surprise or out of the normal reaction/action.
What are Noodles and Water in our brains? (HINT - Thought bubbles)
Noodles are the not kind/helpful words/actions in our thought and talk bubbles.
Water is the kind or neutral thoughts in our thought and talk bubbles.
True or False:
If someone calls me a mean name, it is their fault if I say or do something back to them.
False!
No matter any one else's choices, I am in control of my words and actions.
Name 2 things you can do to calm your body and mind?
Some examples: take a walk, take deep breaths, take a break, talk to an adult, Mountain breathing, 5-finger breathing, get a drink of water, etc.
What does the yellow light mean in our stoplight?
Find a way/tool to solve the problem.
Give me 2 examples of what is Expected.
Ex. Sitting at your desk, following the direction of the adult, smiling and waving at a friend, opening an unlocked door, etc.
Give 3 examples of being respectful
Some examples: Listening when someone is talking, holding the door, using kind words, asking before touching someone's stuff, not going in others bubbles, etc.
In this book, Noodle learns that he can't blame everyone else when things don't go the way he wants or if he makes poor choices.
"But it's not my fault" by Julia Coo
Name 3 feeling words that are not good, bad, sad, or mad.
ex. Frustrated, confused, hurt, bored, excited, scared, anxious, worried, silly, angry, etc.
What are the three rules we need to follow when we have big feelings?
1. You can't hurt others
2. You can't hurt yourself
3. You can't hurt property
What are 2 examples of unexpected?
Ex. Yelling in the classroom. throwing chairs, saying mean comments, hitting, pushing, interrupting, etc.
Why does your behavior matter? Give 2-3 reasons why.
Ex. How you treat others, what you say could be hurtful or helpful, behavior can change what you can learn and what others can learn, people won't want to be around you if you make mean choices, etc.
Why is being responsible important? Give 2-3 reasons why.
Ex. Learn how to take care of your stuff, grow your brain by owning up to choices and learning from it, shows others that you are capable, then others aren't blamed with your choices, etc.
Can we control our emotions? Explain your answer
Usually no. But we can control what we do with whatever we feel. We don't have to let the emotion have control over us.
When you got up from the ball chair, and your name was drawn for the day, to grab a tissue and another friend sat on the ball chair. You know it is your turn for the meeting. What should you do?
Ex. Ask them to move, take a deep breath, ask a second time, go get the teachers help. Use I language is another option.
Name some emotions that could happen if someone is doing something unexpected.
Ex. Scared, confused, worried, sad, mad, etc.