Russ's Story
The Feeling/Emotion that is the Theme for Rus's Story
Anger
You get angry when it isn't necessary or useful
It's too Frequent
Shoulds or excessive responsibility is the fuel for
Neurotic Guilt
Ken Keyes Jr. suggests in The Power of Unconditional Love that a sane alternative to thinking in shoulds is to think about what you want while realizing how happy you will be when you get it.
FALSE
it's realizing that you may not get it.
It is clear that Rus was
- Not Working a program
- not in any therapy/Counseling addressing his abandonment issue
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According to Mr. Adrian "Rus Is what you may consider as..."
AFC or Average Frustrated Chump.
High degrees of anger rarely produce positive results. When your anger is out of proportion to the situation a problem may exist.
It's too intense
When Rus Filled out the questionnaire in step 2 which emotion came up most frequently?
Anger
If you are prone to neurotic guilt it can be hard to know the difference between real guilt and neurotic guilt.
TRUE
The Reason Joaquim choked his co-worker
How long was Rus Clean for
6 months
Your anger doesn't subside within a reasonable amount of time after the appearance of a conflict
It Lasts too Long
What activity helped Rus from thinking about Sandra making him too tired to be angry?
Exercise
Anger can be reinforcing because it is an easier emotion to feel at the time than fear, hurt, guilt, or emptiness.
TRUE
when a person is in the back of the cop car regretting what they did is...
Post explosion phase.
Before he did cocaine again, what did Rus Conclude?
That he would never trust a woman again with his feelings.
If you have been treated abusively or unfairly you may be tempted to attack the offender verbally or physically.
It lead's to aggression
Rus was tempted and abstinent on what day of monitoring his emotions. What did he report he'd do?
DAY 2 and talk to a friend about how he felt.
A way to reduce anger is to Deny responsibility for your own happiness and needs.
False
true or false: the 3 phases in the Agression Cycle are
Escalation --> Explosion --> Post explosion.
True
what else besides anger did Rus experience?
Hurt and Rejection
Either you are not able to do a good job at work because anger is interfering with your conversation, or people are staying away from you because of your anger.
It disturbs your work or relationships.
On the third day of Rus'mess Rus reported this...
Tired watching TV, Thinking about Sandra.... Went to the GYMMMMM....
HE was Abstinent and Felt better.
You can control others actions, and you cannot change how you think about them.
FALSE
_________ is part of all anger.
Blame