TACTICS
Making and/or carrying out threats to do something to hurt her. Threatening to leave her, to commit suicide, to report her to welfare. Making her drop charges. Making her do illegal things. Using phrases, like you better, and because I said so.
What is, Using Coercion and Threats.
Seeking mutually satisfying resolutions to conflict, accepting change, being willing to comprise. I do not always have to be right.
What is Negotiation and Fairness
Treating you like you are a servant, acting like he is master of the castle, making all the "big" decisions, defining your role/job.
What is USING MALE PRIVILEGE
I have a lot of ________ for someone in Arthur’s position, because I have definitely been there.
What is empathy.
_____________ is a pattern of behavior that includes physical, emotional, verbal or sexual abuse used by one person in an intimate relationship to exert power and control over another. This is generally defined as occurring among individuals between the ages of 13-19 years old. Like intimate partner violence among adults, ______ occurs without respect to age, race, religion, socioeconomic status and sexual orientation.
What is Teen Dating Violence
Making her afraid by using a look, actions, gestures. Smashing things. Destroying her property. Abusing pets. Displaying weapons.
What is, Using Intimidation.
My kids can come to me and talk about anything, being a positive non-violent role model for the children. Kids can count on me, my partner can trust me with the children.
What is Responsible Parenting
Preventing her from getting or keeping a job, his job is more important. Making her ask for money, and have to account for how money is being spent. Taking her money, giving her an allowance, and not letting her have access to the family money.
What is using Economic Abuse.
While the referee had ________ for Greg playing through an illness, he still had to call the match fairly.
What is Sympathy.
This also called common couple violence, is not connected to general control behavior, but arises in a single argument where one or both partners physically lash out at the other.
What is situational couples violence
Putting her down. Making her feel bad about herself. Calling her names. Making her think she is crazy. Playing mind games. Humiliating her. Making her feel guilty.
What is Using Emotional Abuse.
Accepting responsibility for self, acknowledging past use of violence, admitting being wrong, communicating openly and truthfully.
What is, Honesty and Accountability.
When your partner is trying to address a concern and you bring up an unrelated issue, this is called:
What is sidetracking
Children who display ________ early and often adjust well in school with minimal intervention.
What is Empathy
This is a form of self-defense, violence perpetrated by victims against their partners who have exerted intimate terrorism against them
What is Violent Resistance
Controlling what she does, who she sees, who she talks to, what she reads, where she goes. Limiting her outside time and involvement. Using jealousy to justify your action.
What is Using Isolation.
Listening to her non-judgmentally, being emotionally affirming and understanding, valuing opinions. Not rolling your eyes when she says something that you do not like.
What is, Respect.
“I only went out for drinks with her because you were supposed to be at work.” This is an example of ___________.
What is justification
I would have more ________ for your tiredness if I didn’t know you were out so late last night.
What is Sympathy
This is rare type of intimate partner violence occurring when both partners act in a violent manner, battling for control
What is mutual violent control
Making light of the abuse, and not taking her concerns seriously. Saying the abuse did not happen. It's You that make me yell. Shifting responsibility for abusive behavior.
What is, Minimizing Denying And Blaming.
I believe in her, and her goals in life, respecting her right to her own feelings, friends, activities, and opinions.
What is, Trust and Support.
Using visitation to harass her or threatening to take the children away are examples of:
What is using children
Raven’s superhuman sense of ________ can cause her to be overcome by others’ strong feelings.
What is Empathy
This occurs when one partner in a relationship, typically a man, uses coercive control and power over the other partner, using threats, intimidation, and isolation.
What is Intimate Terrorism