Anger & Stress
Two underlying reasons for anger:
What is: fear, disgust, frustration, stress, loneliness, rejection, shame, worry, embarrassment, disappointment, rejection, etc.
Empathy is..
What is: the ability to understand and share the feelings of another. To step inside someone's shoes and feel for them.
Personal power is...
What is: strength and confidence in oneself, ability/energy to control the environment around you
Appropriate family roles are based on..
What is: Parents using nurtured parenting skills to ensure the roles do not become blurred. Parents are educators, children are respected for individuality and still have to follow family rules/expectations.
Is it okay to expect a 3-year-old to pick up their room by themselves?
No. Children at 3 years old need guidance and step by step instructions. They can be asked to do age-appropriate tasks, please put your dish in the sink, Please put this cup of dog food in the dogs bowl, etc.
Unhealthy coping skills:
What is: Revenge/retaliation, avoiding, blaming or threatening, name calling, being violent, using drugs or alcohol, being passive aggressive, shutting down
2-year-olds show empathy by..
What is: crying when another child cries, attempts to cheer the person up, shut down.
How do babies exercise personal power?
Crying to get their needs met
Is it ok for your child to be your best friend? Why or why not?
What is: No. You can be your child's best friend, but not the other way around. You need peer support so you do not blur the lines between parent and child.
What age should children be potty trained?
When they are ready. There is no age.
Healthy coping skills:
What is: sharing your feeling, taking a bath or shower, music, breathing, art, space, exercise, talking to a trusted friend, eat/drink your favorites, anything that works for you
Two ways to support empathy development:
What is: Model good feeling recognition, teach feeling words, read books, promote awareness of others emotions verbal and non-verbal, teach feeling expression, teach empathy to living creatures, validation, guide through consequence, praise appropriate expressions.
Power struggles occur because..
What is: a normal and crucial step of developing autonomy, an attempt to gain control when lacking, there is an underlying need not being met
If there is no co-parent in the home should you rely on your oldest children to help with responsibilities?
It is ok to give all children age appropriate chores however, it is not ok to rely on children for co-parenting needs.
How does having appropriate expectations for children help them?
Children will feel confident in meeting their own needs, develop trust and security with parents.
Things children stress about:
What is:
Home: Single parent home, financial strain, lack of routines/consistency, parental health, parental conflict, drug or alcohol use, domestic violence
Self: physical changes, skill development, building identity based on self-worth & early attachment, noticing differences from peers
School: Tests, homework, grades, learning abilities, peer pressure, school violence, drills, stressed teachers
Community: Peer pressure, high crime residential areas, lack of safety in external environments
What needs to children have aside from basic physiological (nutrition, water, air, sleep, clothign) needs? (think Maslow's heirarchy)
What is: Safety - stability, protection
Social: Giving and receiving affection, friendship, love, belonging
Esteem: Self-evaluation, achievement, independence
Actualization: Growth, understanding, exploration, play.
Tell us one way you use your own personal power in day to day life.
what is: answers will vary
Why should you not rely on children to take care of younger siblings?
Parentification: Children will be rushed to become more mature and miss important milestones of childhood.
Is it ok to expect yourself to get angry when your child will not do what they are told?
Yes, you should expect yourself to have strong emotional reactions. It is your responsibility to self-regulate and support your child through the behavior.
Impacts of stress (short and long term)
What is:
Heart concerns, migraines/headaches, mental health problems (anxiety, depression, etc), trouble breathing, panic attacks, skin conditions (acne, hair loss) diabetes, fertility problems, tummy issues, sleep problems, muscle tension
Children show unmet needs through..
Tell us one way you give your child personal power.
what is: answers will vary
Define Appropriate Family Roles.
Boundaries put in place to establish and maintain healthy parent/child relationships
Define the most impactful protective factor children have
The attachment and relationship that children share with their parent(s).