Empathy
Empathy is...
the ability to understand and share the feelings of another. To step inside someone's shoes and feel for them.
Personal Power is...
Strength and confidence in oneself, the possession of control, authority, or influence over another, our drive to accomplish things, the will to love, the energy and commitment to create, to change, and to build.
Influenced by self-concept (what we think of ourselves) + self-esteem (the way we feel about ourselves),
Two underlying reasons for anger (Remember - the anger iceberg)
Embarrassed, sad, scared, grief, depressed, frustrated, overwhelmed, trauma, insecure, worried, regret, stressed, guilt, lonely, etc.
Define Appropriate expectations:
Clear, consistent, and developmentally appropriate family expectations/rules.
Utilizes family values and beliefs to guide behaviors.
Birth -18 months. Trust = the world is safe and my needs are met with care and consistency, mistrust = the world is unsafe, and I cannot rely on people to meet my needs.
Critical for attachment – those serve and return interactions, a baby smiles or coos and you do it back, singing songs, discussing what you are doing through routines, proper stimulation – black & white books/pictures, music, eye contact.
True or False: Children who learn to recognize feelings in others are more successful in life.
True.
True or False: Parents Spoil babies by picking them up when they cry.
False.
True or False: Crying is a sign of weakness in boys.
False.
True or False: Parents should expect more from boys than girls.
False.
True or False: Spanking children when they misbehave teaches them how to behave.
False.
Name two ways to support empathy development:
Model good feeling recognition, teach feeling words, read books, promote awareness of others' emotions verbal and non-verbal, teach feeling expression, teach empathy to living creatures, validation, guide through consequence, praise appropriate expressions, etc.
Name one reason why power struggles occur
A normal and crucial step of developing autonomy, an attempt to gain control when lacking, there is an underlying need not being met
Name two unhealthy coping skills:
Revenge/retaliation, avoiding, blaming or threatening, name calling, being violent, using drugs or alcohol, being passive aggressive, shutting down
Name one reason why having routines and rituals support children's development
Children will feel confident in meeting their own needs, develop trust, safety, and security with parents and environment, know what is expected of them, crucial to developing self-regulation skills, resilience, and confidence.
Name one nervous system response and an associated behavior (what you see)
Fight: Anger outbursts, yelling, screaming, physical outbursts, demanding/controlling, blaming, irritability, "oppositional", "defiant", "noncompliant"
Flight: Workaholic, overthinker, anxiety, panic, difficulty sitting still, perfectionism, procrastination, difficulty paying attention
Freeze: Difficulty making decisions, shutting down, feeling stuck, dissociation, isolation, numb, depressed
Fawn: People pleaser, lack of identity, no boundaries, avoids conflict, fears upsetting others, overwhelm, co-dependency, looks to other to always make decisions
A reframe of a behavior: What is my most generous interpretation of this behavior?
Am I bad kid? Or am I a good kid having a hard time managing my emotions?
Analyze the reason and reflect to children they are good even if they make mistakes.
Tell us one way you use your own personal power in day to day life.
Answers vary
Name two healthy coping skills:
Answer vary: sharing your feeling, taking a bath or shower, music, breathing, art, space, exercise, talking to a trusted friend, eat/drink your favorites, anything that works for you
Should children always be obedient to authority figures?
No, because ... (answers will vary)
Identify 2 ways to build a child's self-worth
•Energize your child’s successes
•Be interested in their life, respect who they are becoming
•Encourage their interests
•Help them set goals
•Accept that they will make mistakes, and be there for them without guilt or shame
•Create situations you know they will succeed in
•Give them freedom to make decisions
•Let them help you
•Visualize your child as the new positive labels
•Show love and affection
•Be a role model
Children show unmet needs through..
Behaviors - sleep difficulty, separation anxiety, irritability, emotional upsets, regression, inability to pay attention, change in play, etc.
Tell us one way you give your child personal power.
Answers will vary.
Define Co-regulation and why this is important
Co-Regulation: a supportive interaction where a calm, regulated person helps another person manage their emotional state, using connection, presence, and safety to guide them toward self-regulation. Utilizes 5 senses and healthy coping skills. This is crucial to learning how to self-regulate.
Explain why logical/natural consequences are preferred
Teaches children they have responsibility and control over their actions. Children can naturally learn from their own mistakes with adult guidance. Logical consequences are necessary to put meaning to family rules.
What does it actually mean to be a "Nurtured Parent", and how can it benefit children?
Balance of structure and nurture. It is a combination of warmth, empathy, appropriate family roles, safety within unit, and flexibility/choices when appropriate.
Children can grow up to become confident, independent, responsible, understand familial values, and capable of managing emotions