Boundaries
Values and Boundary questions/ pie chart rating.
True or False
Self compassion is for wimps. I have to be tough and strong to get through my life"
False: self-compassion is a reliable source of inner strength and enhances resilience when faced with difficulties
Name the stages of change
pre contemplation, contemplation, preparation, action, and maintenance
What were the scales we used (HIGH --> LOW) we used to discuss attachment style?
High to low anxiety and avoidance
Why is grieving or addressing grief important?
identify emotions and process them, not lead to maladaptive coping skills like substance abuse, make meaning of situation to move forward, prevent long term depressive symptoms
When our actions do not align with our values sometimes we can feel
feelings of guilt or shame
Finish the quote:
"We give ourselves self compassion not to make things better, but _____________________"
because we feel bad.
Someone who has maintained sobriety for a year and regularly attends a support group meeting would be in what stage?
Maintenance
What are some observable factors that someone with avoidant attachment may enact?
withdraw when someone tries to get close to you or be needier, uncomfortable with vulnerable emotions, hyper independence, prefer fleeting, casual relationships, repression of feelings, not seek support or ask for it
What type of grief is felt by a community, or group of people
Bonus 100: name an example we discussed in group
Collective grief
Name 2 benefits of establishing and maintaining boundaries
increased respect, practicing healthy conflict, investment in yourself, protecting sobriety, expressing your needs and having them honored, healthy communication
What technique did we discuss in group that observed our negative self talk
ABCD
Activating event
Beliefs
Consequences/Effects
Dispute
Name a spookily named city in Arizona
Tombstone
Which two attachment styles can potentially create a push, pull dynamic in relationship
Anxious and Avoidant attachment
Name the stages of Grief
Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression, Acceptance
What acronym did we use when discussing boundary making
DEAR MAN
Name a counter argument for the following statement:
"I will never get to where I want in life if I let up on my self- criticism for a moment, it's what drives me to succeed. Self-compassion is fine for some people, but I have high standards and goals I want to achieve in my life"
Self-criticism tends to undermine self confidence to complete goals/tasks and leads to fear of failure and perfectionism
Self-compassion motivates us because we care about ourselves and want to reach our full potential
They are fruits.
Name the four attachment styles we discussed
avoidant, anxious, disorganized, and secure
Name a type of grief where symptoms show up somatically in a person?
Masked grief
Describe
Express
Assert
Reinforce
Name the 3 parts of self compassion
Self kindness: warmth
Common humanity: connectedness, suffering is unavoidable, everyone goes through a hard time
Mindfulness: being present in the moment, not avoiding problems or deflecting.
What is the biggest difference between the stage of pre contemplation and contemplation?
Acceptance of problem, often people in precontemplation are unaware, or in denial of a problem while contemplation recognizes there is a problem, and notices benefits of changing behavior but does not have anything in place to start changing behavior.
What are at least 3 ways to work on an disorganized attachment style?
Trauma therapy, emotional regulation, utilize self-soothing techniques, trust development with self and others.
Name at least 3 ways we discussed to process of tend to grief
Visit cemetery or physical manifestation, create meaning from loss or death, individual therapy or grief support groups, healthy emotional expressions, write a letter or journal