Healthy relationship pt.1
You can be truthful and candid without fearing how the other person will respond.
Honesty
When someone repeatedly makes excuses for their unhealthy behavior.
Deflecting Responsibility
You are caring and empathetic to one another, and provide comfort and support.
Kindness
When someone keeps you away from friends, family, or other people.
Isolation
True/ False: Abuse requires physical harm.
False
Making time for self-reflection and self-care
Independence
Sam has a big test coming up and knows he needs to study. His best friend, Chris, wants him to go to the county fair the night before the test. Chris pressures Sam saying, “What do you care about more, this stupid test or our friendship?”
Guilting
Because they enjoy doing different things, Darren and Jose alternate who gets to choose their date activities. Their approach allows both Darren and Jose to feel valued and heard in their relationship.
Equality
Every week, Julia and Elena go to a park to hang out after school. When Julia finds that Elena sometimes hangs out at their park with other friends, she gets super jealous. Julia says, “I don’t care if you hang out with other people, but this park is OUR place! How could you go with someone else?”
Possessiveness
True/ False: Your relationship is only healthy if it does not display any unhealthy signs.
False
Alex and Rowan have been friends since they were kids, and sometimes they disagree with each other. When they do, they try to slow down and keep things respectful to keep the disagreement from becoming a fight.
Healthy Conflict
Your partner goes through your phone and reads your text messages.
Betrayal
Liza is constantly hugging her friends. Her best friend, Meg, tells her it makes her uncomfortable. While Liza loves to give hugs, she understands Meg’s boundaries.
Respect
Ross and Taylor have been dating for 3 months. Taylor has asked Ross for sexually explicit photos a few times, and Ross hasn't said no, but also hasn't sent any. Taylor says that it's normal to send images like this if you've been dating for three months.
Manipulation
A term for when two people mutually and voluntarily agree to do something together.
Consent
Sharing common household responsibilities
Equality
Alex constantly calls Sarah names and brings up embarrassing stories whenever she is with her guy friends.
Belittling
Ayana tells her friend Bella that she is going on a date with Brad and asks her not to tell anyone. The next day, Bella lets the secret out and everyone at school knows. When Ayana finds out what Bella did, she talks with her about how she feels. Bella acknowledges her mistake and promises not to break her trust again.
Taking Responsibility
Rodrigo and Toni have known each other for a while. Rodrigo has a tendency to get really angry over small things, but Toni is used to it.
Volatility
Somebody who intervenes when they see something is called:
Upstander
Benny and Kim have been dating for 3 months. Benny learned last week that Kim’s favorite flower is a rose. After she has a tough day Benny decides to get her a bouquet of roses.
Kindness
Kia and Tish met last week, and things are going great! They spend all their time together, and they've gotten to know each other really fast. They're feeling so excited about each other, and have already shared about a lot of hard stuff in their past. Kia's feeling a little overwhelmed, but Tish is so cool and is actually interested in her!
Intensity
Jessie and Alyssa met during the first week of school and have been spending a ton of time together. After hanging out constantly for three days, Jessie lets Alyssa know that they want to take a break. Alyssa tells them she understands and takes the break as an opportunity to get to know other students in their class.
Comfortable Pace
After a few months of dating, Kim and Maggie are hanging out alone in Kim’s basement. Kim keeps trying to take off Maggie’s shirt, but Maggie tells her she doesn’t think she’s ready for that. Kim responds, “Well if you really love me, then you'd do it.”
Guilting
A term to describe when harm is done to a person, and the person who was harmed is blamed instead of the person who did the harm.
victim blaming