VALIDATION
What is "Validation?"
It communicates to another person that their thoughts, feelings and actions make sense are understandable to you given a particular situation.
What does "dialectical" mean?
Two opposite ideas can be true at the same time and when considered together can create a new truth and a new way of viewing the situation.
What does DEARMAN stand for?
E - Express
A - Assert
R - Reinforce
M - (Be) Mindful
A - Appear Confident
N - NegotiateNames five (5) modules in DBT:
1. Mindfulness Skills
2. Emotional Regulation Skills
3. Distress Tolerance Skills
4. Interpersonal Effectiveness5. Walking the Middle Path Skills
Biosocial Theory is the transaction between what two things?
Biology and Social Environment.
Is validation agreement?
Not necessarily, it means you understand where they are coming from.
Give two (2) examples of dialectics?
Examples:
You can be right and I can be right.
The day can be sunny and it can rain.
What does GIVE and FAST stand for and when do you use them?
* Maintaining the relationship
G - (Be) Gentle
I - (Act) Interested
V - Validate
E - Easy Manner
*Maintaining self-respect
F - (Be) FairA - (Don't) Apologize
S - Stick to your Values
T - (Be) Truthful
This module helps with managing impulsivity (acting without thinking)
Distress Tolerance
What are the biological vulnerabilities to emotion?
2. High Reactivity
3. Slow Return to Baseline
4. Plus, an inability to effectively regulate your emotions.
Name two reasons we validate:
1. Improve Relationships.
2. De-escalate conflict and intense emotions.
3. Show others we are listening, understand, being non-judgmental, care about the relationship and we can disagree without having a big conflict.
What's the purpose of dialectical thinking?
To help increase flexibility of thinking, in other words, to look at situation in a different/new way. Reduce black-and-white/extreme thinking. Reduces suffering. Increases validation, helps us get unstuck.
What are the factors for considering and asking for what you want?
Priorities, Capabilities, Timeliness, Preparation, Relationship, Give-and-Take
This module helps to bring awareness to what you are feeling, why you get upset, what your goals are in a particular situation and helps you increase your focus.
Mindfulness
What is an invalidating environment?
It communicates that what you are feeling, thinking or doing doesn't make sense or is considered inaccurate or an overreaction.
What is "invalidation"?
Invalidation communicates that another persons thoughts, feelings or actions in a particular situation make no sense, are manipulative or stupid, an overreaction, or not worthy of your time, interest or respect.
Identify a dialectical dilemma you experienced this week:
Examples:
Accepting myself as I am and working toward change.
Being too strict and being too lenient.
Working and resting.
What is an example of a worry thought and how can you make it into a Wise Mind self statement?
Example:
Worry thought: "Why bother asking, it won't make a difference anyway?"
Wise Mind Statement: "If I ask, I might get a response that is helpful."
This module helps you identify your feelings, decrease mood-dependent behaviors, steady your mood.
What is an example of a poor fit?
Parent who has high sensitivity and child with low sensitivity.
Give three (3) validating statements and explain why each is validating:
Examples:
It makes sense you feel ________, given ________.
I can see this is really overwhelming for you.
Given what's happened in the past, it makes sense you feel that way.
Think of a time you as a parent or teen disagreed within the past week and re-frame it dialectically. In other words, look at both sides.
Example:
Teen wants to go out with friends and stay out past curfew. Parents want teen to be safe and respect rules.
Give a DEARMAN on taking out the trash using all the letters/steps.
Example:
1. People are doing the best they can.
2. People want to improve.
3. People need to do better, try harder and be more motivated to change.
4. People may have not caused all their own problems but they must solve them anyway. *Except for parents and caregivers must assist with this task.
5. Teens and their families must learn and practice new behaviors in all the different situations in their lives.
6. All behaviors (actions, thoughts, emotions) are caused.7. Figuring out the causes of behavior work better than judging and blaming.
8. Teens and their families cannot fail in DBT.
Over time an invalidating environment leads to:
Multiple problems including chronic emotional dysregulation.