Conflict/Anger
What is a Conflict?
A conflict is a disagreement or argument between 2 or more people.
A healthy friendship is...
What can get in the way of an apology?
Anger, sadness, fear.
What is harm?
Something that causes pain, discomfort or damage.
What is Anger?
Anger is an emotion caused by frustration, unfairness or unmet needs.
No. Conflict can help us learn more about peoples opinions and views. Conflict can help us to try new things and show our differences.
An unhealthy friendship is...
a person who is not supportive of you, acts in a mean way towards you, makes you feel lonely or stressed, you don't feel confident around them.
A change in actions and showing that it will not happen again.
What is an example of harm?
Physical hurt, spreading rumors, sharing secrets, name calling, racial comments.
What are some supports or cool down activities you can do when you are angry?
find a support person, talk with a friend, get a drink, eat, go for a walk etc.
What are some peaceful ways that we can respond when we are having a conflict with someone?
Walk away, Ignore, Talk it out, Seek help
Take a deep breath, go for a walk, find a trusted adult
How might finding things in common with others, help us to make a new friendship?
You can talk about common interests, or see if you are a part of similar groups or clubs. Shared experiences often make stronger friendships.
What is a Sincere Apology?
Eye contact, calm tone, calm body, asking how they can heal the harm, showing with their actions they will not harm again.
What does it take to heal harm?
A meaningful apology, showing that they won't do it again. Changing their actions.
Is it normal to feel angry? Is it ok to be angry?
What is the difference between conflict and bullying?
Conflict is a disagreement between 2 or more people that are equal in power. Bullying is intentional repeated harm where there is a power imbalance.
If someone is talking badly about you to other people, is that a healthy or unhealthy friendship? What can you do in that situation?
Unhealthy. Talk with that person about it, let them know how it makes you feel. Take some space from that person.
How can relationships be impacted if we do not take responsibility for our actions and apologize?
Why is it important to learn about harm and healing the harm?
It is important because we need to take responsibility for if we have harmed someone else.
If we have not dealt with our anger and we are still feeling in crisis mode we are unable to use our thinking brain to make a good choice. We need to go down the volcano in order to reflect on the situation and take responsibility.
Why should we try and look under the surface of the conflict iceberg when we see a conflict?
Trying to think about what we can't see during a conflict (fears, feelings, expectations, needs, assumptions) can help give us some perspective on how the person in conflict might be feeling. There might be something else going on for that person that we are not aware of.
What does it mean to have boundaries in friendship
Understanding personal space, communicating needs (I need space, no means no), and identifying respectful behaviour
What good can come from owning our actions and apologizing?
Our friends will trust that we will not harm them again, we can learn a lesson on how to do something better.
What are the 3 main types of harm?
Physical, emotional/mental, damage to property or belongings.
What are 3 parts of the anger volcano? There is a total of 5.
Trigger, Escalation, Crisis, Cool Down, Reflection