Pairing
what is pairing?
the process of building or maintaining rapport with a client by establishing yourself as a reinforcer
Developing a positive working relationship with your client where you have established leadership control.
instructional control
Show your client that you are the one in control of the items he wants to hold or play with and that
you will decide when he can have them.
your clients parents is going back and forth about not watching tv anymore during dinner your client is screaming at the parent and the parent is screaming back
•Arguing/debating with your client
You want to become a generalized conditioned reinforcer without you....
the fun does not happen?
In a situation lacking instructional control, the child is the
BOSS.
In the early stages of earning instructional control with your client reinforce after each positive response moving to
an intermittent schedule of reinforcement
(“I know she just bit me, but she’s really tired”)
•Underestimating the child/rationalizing problem behaviors
When pairing be mindful of your language. You should be using
descriptive, narrative language?
Always be prepared before giving any
demand
The client should not have
free access to highly reinforcing items.
your clients parent is playing with your client your client playfully hits his parent a toddler she laughs and says oopsie or uh oh everytime your client playfully hits her now
Allowing aggression to happen...in any form
When you successfully pair with a child, you should think of yourself as a big
M&M
Treat every demand you give like an opportunity to reinforce, or provide a
consequence
Present yourself as being on the same team as the
parents
your clients mom says he had a really rough day take it easy on him today don't present any demands so he wont hit himself
•Avoiding giving demands to avoid problem behaviors
the pairing process
never ends
Always say what you mean and mean what you say. When presenting demands, don’t allow him access to reinforcement until it has been acceptably completed.
Show your client you can be trusted.
you are also providing consequences, you creating structure and order, and
following through
your clients parent says "he was so mad that he wasn't able to play with the ipad after 8 PM anymore so i just ended up giving it to him because he told me he hates me and I don't want him to hate me
•Problem with seeing the child unhappy/ Child must always like you