Peer Pressure Basics
What is Peer Pressure?
Being influenced by peers to act or behave a certain way.
What is something negative that people often become pressured into doing?
Stealing, lying, bullying, style/clothes, "roasting"
Several students are saying unkind things about another student. They start urging you to join in their comments.
Negative.
What are common phrases used when someone is trying to pressure you?
Call you a name (chicken, scared).
"If you were my friend you would..."
"It won't hurt you to try it."
"Everyone does it."
"If you do it, I'll do it."
What should you do if a friend frequently pressures you to do things that you are not comfortable with?
Find new friends, talk to a trusted adult
Your best friend wants you to take your parent's credit card to buy Robux for them for their birthday.
Negative.
Is there such a thing as positive peer pressure? Give an example.
Yes. Peers who are committed to doing well in school can influence others to be more goal focused.
Peers asking you to make better choices (don't spread a rumor, etc)
What is a strategy to use (other than saying no) to resist peer pressure?
Suggest a different activity, change the subject, walk away
If online: block someone, leave group chat or game
Your friend wants to try out for the soccer team but is nervous about messing up in front of others. You encourage them by cheering them on.
Positive.
Give an example of how negative peer pressure can affect you.
You can get into trouble or put yourself and others at risk (ex: future consequences, online posts). Feeling shame, embarrassed, guilt.
What does a person gain if they do a good job not giving in to negative peer pressure?
Influence others in a positive way, develop a good peer group, confidence/self-esteem, respect, academic/future success, trust from family/others etc.
You’re at the store, wishing you had enough money for some candy. Your friend says, “Just take it! It’s no big deal. The clerk’s not even looking.”
Negative.
Why do kids struggle with peer pressure more than any other age?
Increased need to "fit in", be accepted by others
How does social media add to peer pressure?
Comparing yourself to others (often times unrealistically), FOMO (fear of missing out), there are more people on social media to influence you
You have a math test tomorrow. The night before you are online playing a game with a friend who does not have a test. They suggest ending the game so you can study.
Positive.