Mentor Trivia
An experienced or trusted advisor
What is a mentor?
is to say what we have to say to the other person without regard for the other person’s feelings
What is criticism?
expressions about me
What is an "I" statement?
about someone else
What is a "You" statement?
a friend, a coach, a supporter, a motivator, an advocate, a role model, a listener
What are the roles of a mentor?
is to say what we have to say to the other person with regard for the other person’s feelings
What is confrontation?
" I am angry with you because you broke curfew"
What is an appropriate "I" statement?
“You look angry; You seem excited; You appear to be sad.”
What is an inappropriate "You" statement?
a surrogate parent, a replacement tutor/teacher, a psychologist, an ATM, a playmate, a social worker, a savior
What is the role that a mentor should not play (or similar answer)?
It’s supposed to hurt. It’s like slapping someone in the face with mean words. It’s verbal abuse.
What is criticism?
"I am so upset with what you are doing that I may have a heart attack."
What is an inappropriate "I" statement?
“What do you think about nuclear energy? Do you think the team should trade for a good quarterback?”
What is an effective "You" message?
What is a positive effect of having a mentor?
provides useful information, sensitive to each other's feelings, do not have to waste valuable energy being defensive and angry
What is confrontation?
make me the center of attention, the star of the moment. I Statements focus on me, tell about me, or describe me
What is an effective "I" statement?
makes someone else the center of attention, the star of the conversation.
What is an effective "You" message?