Thinking with your eyes
Being a detective
Non-verbal cues
Empathy
100
What am I thinking?
Students "think" with their eyes to guess what the leader is thinking (Adult model examples: looking an watch/what time is it, looking at drink/I'm thirsty, etc.)
100
What is one reason that looking at the speaker during a conversation is important?
It shows the other person that we are paying attention. It shows the other person that we are interested in what they have to say. It helps us understand the speaker's message.
100
Show the group how to tell someone to wait without using words
Demos NVC
100
If you see your friend is having a hard time with something, what can you do? Example: having a hard time with a math problem
Offer to help them! Ask them if they want help
200
What clues can we use to figure out how someone might be feeling just using our eyes?
Facial expression, body language, situation
200
Be a detective. How does she feel? Why? 
She is sad. She feels left out. She wants attention from her Mom.
200
Without using words show the group how to tell someone to be quiet AND how to tell someone to stop
Demos NVC
200
James is scared of flying. Tiffany loves flying and thinks its so fun! Who is right?
Nobody is right. Different situations can make people feel different emotions.
300
Think with your eyes: Where is he going? How do you know? 
He might be going to work. He is dressed up very nice in a fancy suit and is carrying a briefcase.
300
Whats going on in this picture? How do these people feel? Why? 
The man is angry because the woman is not supposed to use her phone in the movie theater. The woman is annoyed that she is being told to put her phone away. She may also feel embarrassed that she got in trouble for breaking the rules. The man and woman are in a movie theater. The man works there and the woman is a customer. She is on her phone when she is not supposed to be. He is telling her to put her phone away.
300
Your mom keeps looking at her watch and tapping her foot. What is she telling you to do?
Hurry up
300
How would you feel if you were going to ride a roller coaster?
Any emotion is correct, different situations can make people feel different emotions.
400
What body language clues lets us know how someone is feeling?
Facial expression, body posture (leaning toward or away, clenched fists, slumped shoulders)
400
How does he feel? Why? 
He is frustrated. He is having a hard time with his homework. He should ask for help!
400
What am I asking you to do? (Adult demo NVC)
Student ID NVC
400
Why is it important to understand how someone else feels?
You need to understand how someone feels so you can respond the right way. Example: If someone is mad- they might need you to give them space If someone is frustrated- they might need your help If someone is sad- they might need a hug or want to talk to you
500
What is the difference between eye contact and "thinking with your eyes?"
Eye contact- you are looking directly at another person's eyes Thinking with your eyes- you are using your eyes to look at another person's facial expression and what another person is looking at to get clues as to what they are thinking about or feeling
500
A good detective observes people to try and figure out what they are doing, how they feel, and what they are going to do next. What should you look at to figure out how someone feels?
Their facial expression and body language, situational clues (what is happening)
500
What are two other ways we can communicate without using words?
-Body language -tone of voice -non verbal cues -facial expressions
500
What does "put yourself in someone else's shoes" mean?
It means to imagine you are in their position and imagine how you would feel. It means try to understand how someone else feels