What is sacrifice?
He who has a "why" can endure any "how." by Viktor Frankl, holocaust survivor
100
You hold other people responsible for your pain, or _________ yourself for every problem.
What is Blame or Blaming?
Ex. Involves making others responsible for our choices. "You made me so mad I had no choice but to throw the mug and break it."
100
I can choose this every day
What is my attitude?
100
Situation->Thinking->Feeling-> ____________
What is action?
100
Thumb pad, back of hand, temples, above the eye, below the eye, upper lip, lower lip, ribs, thighs
What is the tapping sequence?
200
_ _ _ _s are based upon values you plan to work toward in order to achieve an objective.
What is a goal?
200
This is the tendency to relate everything around you to yourself
What is Personalization?
Ex. Thinking that everything that people do or say is some kind of reaction to you. You may also compare yourself to others because your worth may be in question. If you come out better there may be a moment of relief, but if you come up short you feel diminished. The basic thinking error is that you interpret each experience, each conversation, each look, as a clue to your worth or value.
200
Resolve the past
What is it you should do before you create your future?
Ex. Bringing unfinished business or negative baggage into a new relationship means that many of the same dysfunctional patterns that were enacted in the recent failed relationship will play out again in the next relationship(s) until these issues are resolved.
Don't allow your past to control your future in a negative way but not working through your STUFF.
200
You must accomplish a goal or goals to get to your ____________.
What is an objective?
ex. I need to complete 4 years of college/nursing school and pass my nursing license exam (goals), to become a registered nurse (objective).
200
Use of sight, sound, touch, taste or smell to keep yourself in the moment.
What is grounding?
300
Precontemplation is what stage of change?
What is the first stage of change?
There are 5 stages of change. In the precontemplation stage the individual does not realize he/she has a problem and needs to do something about it.
300
Expecting disaster to happen
What is catastrophizing?
Ex. There may be some evidence for something negative to happen but you predict the worst possible outcome will happen. "What if tragedy strikes? It will be horrible, awful, it will never work, it will fail, etc."
300
Be the _____________ you want to see in the world and other people.
What is change?
Ex. Don't wait for other people to be a certain way. Be the positive influence or change agent that you wish others would be.
300
"I'm helpless, I'm a victim, I will never amount to anything!"
What are examples of automatic thoughts?
Ex. These may occur as a result of your upbringing, family dynamics or things you witnessed during your life, may be influenced by culture.
Domestic violence is normal. I witnessed by Father beat my Mother, therefore I will probably end up being a victim too and there is nothing I can do about it.
300
Demonstrate a body calming technique to the group and have them guess what it is.
What is ___________________.
400
Trash on the road is what kind of reminder?
What is a harmless reminder? Something that you to signify danger but does not anymore.
400
Removing all positive aspects of a situation and magnifying the negative
What is filtering?
Ex. Taking the negative details of a situation and magnifying them while not paying attention to any of the positive aspects.
400
Being honest, open and vulnerable with other people.
What is trust?
Ex. Trusting others is a risk for something positive and negative. If you don't take a risk then you may be resigned to loneliness and isolation.
400
Therapy is a ___________experience, not curative or healing.
What is learning?
Because it is all about what you think about the situation that leads to feelings about it. The lense you view something through may be different that another person's lense of experience, it is possible to change your perception of something by LEARNING to look at it differently.
400
Relaxed muscles, even deep breaths, and a calm heart rate
What are examples of a parasympathetic dominant nervous system?
500
Increased parasympathetic nervous system activity
What is deactivation or body calming?
500
This is an example of a thought distortion I use, give an example to the group and see if they can guess which one it is. If at least one person can guess it, you get points.
What is this cognitive distortion?
500
Thermometer
What is SUDS?
500
Certain words have ___________ed ____________s based upon beliefs, past learning or experiences.
What are Conditioned Responses?
The words Should Have, may = a conditioned response of GUILT.
Ex. I know I should have stopped the convoy as we drove past the village with no one there. I should have known there was an imminent attack and then we wouldn't have lost so many Soldiers on the mission.
500
Squeezing muscle groups, holding, and releasing as you move systematically through the body