Coping
The only way to leave the swoop.
What are time outs?
This emotion helps us to recognize that something has been lost and encourages us to take time to remember this thing.
What is sadness?
The four communication styles.
What are passive, aggressive, passive-aggressive, and assertive?
A type of abuse that involves insulting, humiliating, or generally instilling fear.
What is emotional abuse?
Honesty, trustworthiness, and respect, are all examples of this thing.
What are values?
This tool includes three zones and helps us be aware of when we are capable of making logical and rational decisions.
What is the Window of Tolerance?
This emotion motivates us to set a boundary and is considered to have high energy and low pleasantness.
What is anger?
A script someone can use to be assertive.
What is "I feel (emotion) when (reason). I would like (request)".
A type of abuse that involves frightening someone, usually in order to pursuade them to do something.
What is intimidation?
Assumptions we make about the world, such as "All women are liars". These act as glasses and shape how we see things around us.
What are beliefs?
This zone in the window of tolerance often involves feelings of anxiety or anger and sensations such as tension, shaking, or racing thoughts.
What is hyperarousal (red zone)?
The antidote to shame.
What is self-compassion or empathy?
"It doesn't matter to me, we always end up doing what you want anyways" is an example of this kind of communication.
What is passive-aggressive communication?
This type of abuse may involve saying, "I think you're overreacting" or "That's not what happened"
What is minimizing, denying, and blaming?
A group of beliefs that tell men how they should think and behave.
What is The Man Box?
The necessary things someone needs to communicate to their partner before they take a time out.
What are:
- Where I am going
- How long I will be gone for
- What I am doing
This feeling happens when we feel insecure about ourselves and fear we will lose something important to us.
What is jealousy?
What are porous or open boundaries?
The four steps that can result in violence, also referred to as the swoop.
What is a situation, thoughts, physical reactions, and emotional reactions?
The part of the Johari Window that I am unaware of, but other people are aware of.
What is your blind spot?
The first step in order to cope with emotions.
What is awareness of them?
This concept is symbolized by making a fist and then lifting your four fingers while keeping your thumb tucked.
What is flipping your lid?
Three examples of techniques an active listener would use.
What are paraphrasing, clarifying questions, and empathizing?
55% of victims of physical abuse believed their partner had done this thing prior to assaulting them.
What is using alcohol or drugs?
The more of these things someone experiences during their childhood, the more likely they are to experience mental or physical health concerns, or criminal justice system involvement, later in life. Examples include an incarcerated family member or divorced parents.
What are adverse childhood experiences (ACEs) or traumatic experiences?