Attachment Styles
This term was coined to mean a secure attachment in consensual non-monogamy (hint: is the name of the book we talked about last week).
What is Polysecure?
In the book Polysecure, this is what H Stands for in HEARTS when referencing how to have secure attachments with partners.
What is here and now?
A catch-all term that covers several types of relationships in which an individual can form multiple, simultaneous sexual and/or romantic bonds with informed consent from all involved.
What is Consentiual Non-Monogamy?
A relationship of three people, all of whom are romantically involved with one another (A and B; A and C; and B and C) -or- (A and B and C). One of the most publicized forms of polyamory in mainstream media.
What is a Triad or Throuple?
This is the name of someone you have met while attending this group.
Who is ____?
This attachment style occurs when someone experiences a healthy sense of self and positively sees themselves and their partners.
What is the Secure Attachment Style?
In the book Polysecure, this is what E Stands for in HEARTS when referencing how to have secure attachments with partners.
What is express?
This is the abbreviation for Polyamory that is widely used and accepted.
What is Polyam? (Poly-Polynesian)
A network of interconnected relationships.
What is a Polycule?
This is one thing you learned in group this year.
What is ___?
This is the acronym that the author of Polysecure coined to help the reader understand how to have secure attachment styles in their relationships.
What is HEARTS?
In the book Polysecure, this is what A Stands for in HEARTS when referencing how to have secure attachments with partners.
What is attunement?
The idea that, in order to be legitimate and committed, all relationships should progress in certain ways toward specific goals and milestones.
What is Relationship Escalator?
A style of polyamorous relationship that prioritizes the interrelationship of a polycule and the integration of multiple romantic relationships. Often includes close relationships between metamours.
What is Kitchen Table Polyamory?
This is a tool that you can use in your relationships to create clear boundaries between you and your partner(s) regarding what you want from the relationship.
What is the Relationship Smörgåsbord?
This attachment style is a clashing fear of being too close and too far away at the same time. It has characteristics of both preoccupied and dismissive: the desire to be close while also worrying that being too close will cause pain so they push away.
What is a disorganized/fearful attachment style?
In the book Polysecure, this is what R Stands for in HEARTS when referencing how to have secure attachments with partners.
What are rituals and routines?
This is the feeling of happiness in response to the joy of one’s partner in another relationship. Sometimes referred to as the opposite of jealousy.
What is Compersion?
A type of non-hierarchical polyamory that applies anarchist principles of self-determination to intimate relationships. Prioritize individual freedom and responsibility and recognize that many types of relationships are meaningful and important, rejecting the normative idea that romantic partnerships should be prioritized over all other relationships. Often abbreviated “RA.”
What is Relationship Anarchy?
This individual is a certified relationship therapist and runs the podcast Making Polyamory Work.
Who is Libby Sinback?
This is the author of Polysecure.
Who is Jessica Fern?
In the book Polysecure, this is what T Stands for in HEARTS when referencing how to have secure attachments with partners.
What is turning towards?
The ways that society normalizes monogamy, pathologizes non-monogamy, and enforces monogamy upon people by privileging people who are monogamous.
What is Compulsory Monogamy and Mononormativity?
A long-distance relationship where the partners only meet in person rarely but are happy to pick up their connection at those times and be less intensely in touch in between.
What is a Comet?
This scholar urges us to reframe how we think about Polyamory in order to decolonize our mind. Additionally, they urge us to think beyond relationships with people and think about what spaces or plants are important to us.
Who is Dr. Kim Tallbear?