WEEK 1
Who can be a jerk?
Both males and females
How do you get to know someone? (3 T's)
Talk
Time
Togetherness
What 2 skills are important for any relationship?
Communication (listening and speaking) & Conflict Management
What is the definition of trust?
It's the mental picture of your opinion of someone
What is the last dynamic of the RAM?
Touch
What 2 main organs are needed for relationships?
What is an example of an incubator?
Definition: a safe, secluded environment with little stress or pressure
EXs: school (BYUI), church, military, etc.
What is compatibility?
It is having a chemistry of attraction, similarities, and blending your differences
What is the definition of reliance?
It's putting trust into action
What is commitment?
It's the feeling of belonging
What is the difference between being a jerk and acting like a jerk?
Being: Persistent resistance to change in some significant area of a partner's life
Acting: A person acts, does, or says something that is inconsistent with the usual behavior
What is a conscience?
Tells you right from wrong. Regulates and monitors attitudes and actions.
What is the best conflict style?
1. Aggressive/Attacking
2. Passive and Avoiding
3. Assertive and Affirming
Assertive and Affirming
How is trust and reliance different?
Trust is the mental picture/opinion of someone; whereas reliance is putting trust into action
What is practicing the presence of your partner?
holding your person in your heart while you are apart
What is the safe-zone?
It is when the other 4 dynamics are not higher than KNOW.
or
KNOW is the highest on the Relationship Attachment Modeal
What 3 ways do our families have an influence us?
1. The way we handle emotions
2. How we share power
3. The way we learn our family roles
Why is Relationship (Scripts) History important?
To see how someone treats another person when they are with you or separated
What 3 things influence our trust picture?
1. Stereotypes
2. Associations
3. Ideals
Why should touch be the lowest on the Relationship Attachment Model?
It will interfere with getting to know someone
Who is the author of the book "How to Avoid Falling in Love with a Jerk"?
John Vann Epp
What are the 4 steps for effective change?
1. Insight
2. Motivation
3. New Information
4. Practice Over Time
What 3 ingredients are needed for a lasting relationship?
1. Personality
2. Values
3. Lifestyles
What does the acronym P.A.C.E. stand for?
P: Participate in putting some trust in the relationship
A: Anticipate the best while watching for the worst
C: Cooperate with building trust in the relationship
E: Evaluate the trustworthiness of your partner
What are the relationship stages
1. Hang Out
2. Go on Dates
3. DTR: Become exludsive
4. Date exclusively
5. DTR: When should we get married
6. Engaged
7. Married