Definitions
An emotion that we experience when someone does something that we do not like. This is an emotion that is very common and powerful. Although it is common, it is bad if we do not handle it in an appropiate manner.
What is anger?
I don't have to be kind to people I don't like
What is False? Although we may not get along with certain staff, peers, friends, or adults, we must learn to respect them and ourselves when engaging.
It is ok to be alone
What is true? It is wonderful to enjoy time to ourselves during the school day or at home
True or False. It is ok to express your frustration?
What is true
True or False. Our feelings are more important than other people's feelings. Especially those who lied, made us mad, or didn't listen to what we said
What is false? Our feelings are made to be felt, explored, understood and released in a positive manner. However, our feelings do not take precedent over those who have upset us. Remembering to consider all individuals feelings is important to build healthy relationships
When someone holds back their actions. This is needed when we become angry...We should exercise......It begins with a C
What is control
If you are always angry, people will not want to be around you.
What is true
The most common thing one can do when a friend makes us angry is_____. This gives you time to calm down as you are doing this. Hint: You can do this in the classroom, Mr. Jon and Miss. N's room, or at your seat
What is take five?
What is false? Although we may want to talk about it right away, our prefrontal cortext does not work as efficiently when our emotions run high. Asking someone to talk after we have taken five and gathered our thoughts/emotions will be much more effective. It also is respectful to ourselves and others
True or False. Can a person dislike someone and treat them kindly with respect?
What is true? Although we may not want to treat others with respect at the time, we are capable of being in control of our words and behaviors when around those we dislike.
This is something that an individual does to resolve a conflict and have both parties get what they want
What is compromise?
It is my job to correct others every time they say or do anything incorrectly
What is False? It is our job to remember our role in each environment. If something is being done incorrectly and it is vital that it is corrected, we must determine how to politely communicate this to others
You can also do ________when you are frustrated with others. It is important to remember although others may upset us, WE are in control of how we respond
What is deep breathe, take a drink, process aloud with staff or peer, use a fidget, count to 10
What is visualizing? This can be used to help you calm down.
What is thinking about positive things or thinking about things that make you happy (vacation, person, etc.)
Considering others feelings means I have to respect myself in the process?
What is true? In order to respect others we must respect the way we react. Respecting ourselves means we are able to be proud and safe with the decisions we make in choosing our words and behaviors.
To release your emotions, release your frustrations, release your worries...Students may do this by talking to a counselor, parent, teacher, friend or even writing it in a journal. Doing this helps a person avoid making inappropiate choices related to anger. Starts with a V!
What is venting?
The only way to get people to listen to me is to have them do everything I want to do. Otherwise, they aren't worth my time
What is false?
what type of behavior is inappropriate when expressing your anger to friends? Give me two examples.
Various examples
Give two inappropiate ways of dealing with frustration while staying in the classroom
Various answers
If someone hurts my feelings or does something to make me upset, and I yell back and hit them I don't have to apologize because they made me mad first.
What is false. If a parent, teacher, or peer says something that upsets us WE are IN CONTROL of how we respond and are responsible for what happens. Two wrongs never make a right, and apologizing for what we did is the first step to stopping future behavior.
To feel defeated. If a person is doing something or experiencing something and he feels like he wants to give up, it is because he/she has become______. Often times this leads to anger.
What is frustration?
Most people don't like to lose control
What is true? No one wants to lose control. Getting angry and expressing it in an inappropiate manner leaves you feeling out of control
Choosing to handle our anger in an inppropiate way like throwing a tantrum, slamming doors, hitting someone, etc are all unsafe and ineffective choices. These choices will usually lead to _________
What is consequence? What type of consequences may you receive with friends and peers if you make these choices?
Sometimes people use anger to hide other feelings and emotions. What are these feelings? Name two.
various answers (disappointment, shame, guilt, sadness, tiredness, hunger etc.)
What is false. It is important to apologize, but apologizes only show you mean it when YOU choose to change your behavior. People may not trust you or want to spend time around you if you continuously make the same choices each time you don't get your way or are upset. How can this impact your relationships in middle school?