Healthy Relationships
What are at least three components of a healthy relationship?
Respect, independence, communication, trust, honesty, and fairness.
Who is responsible for requesting consent?
The person initiating the behavior
How can you respond to support a survivor?
“Thank you for trusting me.”
‘’I believe you.’’
‘’I am here to support you.‘’
‘’Let’s talk to CARE at SARC‘’
How would you define cyberstalking?
Cyberstalking is a threatening behavior or unwanted advances directed at another using the Internet and other forms of online and computer communications. Victims are targeted through chat rooms, message boards, discussion forums, social networking sites, blogs, and e-mail.
Why are bystander intervention strategies important?
Employees:
Silence & limit career opportunities
Women often bullied or harassed out of career pathways
Significant & costly loss of talent
Students:
Negatively impacts overall retention and engagement in university programs and activities
Impacts on long-term physical and mental health
List at least one step to changing campus culture on healthy relationships.
(1) Healthy individuals
(2) Healthy relationships
(3) Healthy communities
When can consent not be given? List 3.
Consent cannot be given, for example, if a person is...
Passed out, Unconscious, Pressured or coerced, Scared, Under 18, Has a disability that prevents them from fully understanding what they're consenting to, Intoxicated, etc.
List 3 ways you can validate a survivor.
Thanking them for sharing with you
Saying you believe them
Removing the blame from them (“What happened is not your fault” )
Give two ways you can stay safe online
EX: Never share your password and update your software.
Why is bystander intervention important for students?
Negatively impacts overall retention and engagement in university programs and activities
Impacts on long-term physical and mental health
One in how many college relationships experience dating violence?
1 in 3 (Fischer 2000)
What is the three step process for clarifying consent?
Ask, Listen, Respect
What are the three steps to supporting a survivor?
Step 1: Listen and respond appropriately
Step 2: Access Urgency
Step 3: Connect with CARE
How do you handle cyberstalking?
Examples:
Tell the person to stop.
Block the person
Do not respond to any contact.
Why is bystander intervention important for employees?
Silence & limit career opportunities
Women often bullied or harassed out of career pathways
Significant & costly loss of talent
List at least two of the components of the cycle of violence. (Hint: what comes after the honeymoon phase?)
(1) Honeymoon phase.
(2) Build-up phase.
(3) Stand-over phase.
(4) Explosion.
(5) Remorse phase.
(6) Pursuit Phase
What are the two factors of affirmative consent?
Matching physical (body language, smiling, etc.) and verbal consent.
IDEAS is a bystander intervention model created by the UCSD community. What does IDEAS stand for?
Interrupt: “Hey, what are you doing?” or “Hey, have you seen my keys?”
Distract : “I think I just heard your phone ring”
Engage Peers: “Jay seems to be really upset. Would you mind checking on them”
Alert Authorities : “Who can help me right now”
Safety First : “Is it safe for me to intervene”