Problem Size
You lose a game you are playing. What size is the problem?
Small Problem
You are yelling and screaming. What reaction size is this?
Big reaction
Your brother wants the TV remote, but you had it first. What is a good choice and a not good choice?
Good choice: Ask if he can wait for the commercial break to change, let him have a turn
Not good choice: Throw it, scream, yell
You lose a game you are playing with your friends. You start yelling and screaming and throwing the boardgame pieces. How do your friends feel?
Scared or sad. You had a big reaction to a small problem.
Your friend wants to play basketball, but you want to play video games. How can you compromise?
Play baseball first and then play video games
The kids on the playground are teasing you and calling you names. What size is the problem?
Medium Problem
You go to your bedroom and slam the door. What size reaction is this?
Big reaction
Your mom/dad tells you not to go on the computer. You do anyway. What is a good choice and a not good choice?
Good Choice: Apologize, don't go on again without asking
Not Good Choice: Yell, Pretend it wasn't you, throw things
You fall out of a tree and break your leg when you are playing outside with your family. You are yelling and screaming. How does your family feel?
Worried. They know something is very wrong. You are having a big reaction to a big problem.
You want to eat oreos for a snack, but mom/dad wants you to eat an apple instead. How can you compromise?
Have an apple as a snack right now and save oreos for an after dinner treat.
You want a toy from the store, but Mom/Dad says "No". What size is the problem?
Small Problem
You ignore the situation or solve it quickly by yourself. What size reaction is this?
Your friends are saying mean things to another kid at school. What is a good choice and a not good choice?
Good choice: Tell them to stop, comfort the other kid, tell the teacher
Not good choice: Join in saying mean things
You spill some milk at the dinner table. You grab a towel and clean it up yourself. How does your family feel?
Calm and happy. You had a little reaction to a little problem.
You want to watch TV, but your parents want you to do your homework. How do you compromise?
Do 2 parts of your homework first, then watch some TV.
Watch 1 TV show, then do your homework.
You are in a car crash. What size is the problem?
Big problem.
True or False: You should always have a small reaction to every situation.
False. You should have a reaction that fits the problem size, however, it should always be an appropriate/productive reaction.
You are playing and you accidentally break a bowl that was on the counter. What is a good choice and a not good choice?
Good choice: Tell mom/dad right away and help clean it up
Not good choice: Pretend it wasn't you, start yelling and screaming, ignore the broken pieces.
You are struggling with your math problems, and you just can't seem to figure it out. You raise your hand for your teacher to help. How do your teacher and classmates feel?
Happy and comfortable.
Your parents want you to clean your room, but you don't want to. How do you compromise.
Ask if you can clean part of your room and they help with the other part.
Mom/Dad sees you eating a cookie after they asked you not to do. What size is the problem?
Medium problem
How will other people feel if you have a big reaction to a small problem?
Scared, uncomfortable, frustrated, mad, confused
You are really bored listening to your teacher talk. What is a good choice and a not good choice?
Good choice: Stretch, try to focus, ask to take a drink of water
Not good choice: Yell, run out of the room
The TV breaks. You start yelling and throwing the remote. How do mom/dad feel?
Sad, upset, frustrated.
You really want to buy a new game, but mom/dad says no. How do you compromise
Agree to get it later.