Problem Size
You lose a game you are playing. What size is the problem?
Small Problem
You are yelling and screaming. What reaction size is this?
Big reaction
Your dad wants the TV remote, but you had it first. What is a good choice and a not good choice?
Good choice: Ask if he can wait for the commercial break to change, let him have a turn
Not good choice: Throw it, scream, yell, be mad
You lose a game you are playing with your friends. You start yelling and screaming and throwing the boardgame pieces. How do your friends feel?
Scared or sad. You had a big reaction to a small problem.
Your friend wants to play uno, but you want to play video games. How can you compromise?
Play uno first and then play video games
Someone at the day program is teasing you and calling you names. What size is the problem?
Medium Problem
You ask someone for help. What size reaction is this?
Medium reaction
Your mom/dad tells you not to go on the computer. You do anyway. What is a good choice and a not good choice?
Good Choice: Apologize, don't go on again without asking
Not Good Choice: Yell, Pretend it wasn't you, throw things
You fall down the stairs and hurt yourself at home. You are yelling and screaming. How does your family feel?
Worried. They know something is very wrong. You are having a big reaction to a big problem.
You want to eat oreos for a snack, but mom/dad wants you to eat an apple instead. How can you compromise?
Have an apple as a snack right now and save oreos for an after dinner treat.
You want to buy a new shirt from the store, but Mom/Dad says "No". What size is the problem?
Small Problem
You ignore the situation or solve it quickly by yourself. What size reaction is this?
Small reaction.
Your friends are saying mean things to another person at the day program. What is a good choice and a not good choice?
Good choice: Tell them to stop, comfort the other person, tell staff
Not good choice: Saying mean things too
You spill some milk at the dinner table. You grab a towel and clean it up yourself. How does your family feel?
Calm and happy. You had a little reaction to a little problem.
You want to watch TV, but your parents want you to clean your room. How do you compromise?
Clean your room first, then watch some TV.
You are in a car crash. What size is the problem?
Big problem.
True or False: You should always have a small reaction to every situation.
False. You should have a reaction that fits the problem size
You accidentally break a bowl that was on the counter. What is a good choice and a not good choice?
Good choice: Tell mom/dad right away and help clean it up
Not good choice: Pretend it wasn't you, start yelling and screaming, ignore the broken pieces.
You are struggling to find something at home. You ask your dad to help you look for it. How does your mom feel?
Happy and comfortable. You had a medium reaction to a medium problem.
Your parents want you to do the dishes but there are a lot of them. How do you compromise?
Ask if you can wash half of them now, take a break, then wash the rest of them.
Ask for help.
Mom/Dad sees you eating a cookie after they asked you not to do. What size is the problem?
Medium problem
How will other people feel if you have a big reaction to a small problem?
Scared, uncomfortable, frustrated, mad, confused
You are really bored listening during a discussion at the day program. What is a good choice and a not good choice?
Good choice: Stretch, ask to take a drink of water, deep breath
Not good choice: Yell, run out of the room, say "this is boring"
The TV breaks. You start yelling and throwing the remote. How do mom/dad feel?
Sad, upset, frustrated. You have a big reaction to a medium problem.
You really want to buy a new game, but mom/dad says you have no money. How do you compromise?
Ask if they can help you save for it and get it another time.