Problem Size
You lose a game you are playing. What size is the problem?
Small Problem
You are yelling and screaming. What reaction size is this?
Big reaction
Your family member or roommate wants the TV remote, but you had it first. What is a good choice and a not good choice?
Good choice: Ask if they can wait for the commercial break to change, let them have a turn
Not good choice: Throw it, scream, yell
You lose a game you are playing with your friends. You start yelling and screaming and throwing the boardgame pieces. How do your friends feel?
Scared or sad. You had a big reaction to a small problem.
Your friend wants to play basketball, but you want to play video games. How can you compromise?
Play baseball first and then play video games
Medium Problem
You go to your bedroom and slam the door. What size reaction is this?
Big reaction
Your boss at works tells you not to be on your phone during your work shift. You do anyway. What is a good choice and a not good choice?
Good Choice: Apologize, don't go on again unless you're on your break or done with your shift.
Not Good Choice: Yell, Lie and deny being on your phone, throw things
You fall when playing basketball with you friends or family and break your ankle. You are yelling and screaming. How do your friends or family feel?
Worried. They know something is very wrong. You are having a big reaction to a big problem.
You want to eat oreos for a snack, but your doctor wants you to eat a healthier option like an apple instead. How can you compromise?
Have an apple as a snack right now and save oreos for an after dinner treat OR only have oreos on special occasions (try to keep them out of the house so you aren't tempted).
You wanted to order the meatball sandwich, but it's not currently available at Subway. What size is this problem?
Small Problem
You ignore the situation or solve it quickly by yourself. What size reaction is this?
Your friends are saying mean things to another kid at school. What is a good choice and a not good choice?
Good choice: Tell them to stop, comfort the other kid, tell the teacher
Not good choice: Join in saying mean things
You spill some milk at the dinner table. You grab a towel and clean it up yourself. How does your family feel?
Calm and happy. You had a little reaction to a little problem.
You want to watch TV, but your parents want you to do your chores. How do you compromise?
Do some of your chores first, then watch some TV.
Watch 1 TV show, then do your chores.
You are in a car crash. What size is the problem?
Big problem.
True or False: You should always have a small reaction to every situation.
False. You should have a reaction that fits the problem size, however, it should always be an appropriate/productive reaction.
You were being silly and you accidentally break a bowl that was on the counter. What is a good choice and a not good choice?
Good choice: Tell your family member/roommate right away and help clean it up
Not good choice: Pretend it wasn't you, start yelling and screaming, ignore the broken pieces.
You are struggling when trying to repair a broken item at the house, and you just can't seem to figure it out. You ask your family member to help. How does your family member feel?
Happy and comfortable.
Your parents want you to clean your room, but you don't want to. How do you compromise.
Ask if you can clean part of your room and they help with the other part.
You didn't pass your test to obtain your driver's permit. What size is the problem?
Medium problem
How will other people feel if you have a big reaction to a small problem?
Scared, uncomfortable, frustrated, mad, confused
You are really bored listening to someone at TTI speak. What is a good choice and a not good choice?
Good choice: Stretch, try to focus, ask to take a drink of water
Not good choice: Yell, run out of the room or leave the Zoom meeting abruptly.
The TV breaks. You start yelling and throwing the remote. How do mom/dad feel?
Sad, upset, frustrated.
You really want to buy a new video game, but you have bills to pay. How do you compromise?
Focus on paying your bills and start saving money until you can afford the video game you'd like.