Bullying vs. Conflict
What is an example of someone being rude?
Rude: A classmate accidentally bumps into you and does not apologize.
What is an example of a healthy coping strategy?
-Take some deep breaths
-Put your head down for a minute/nap
-Color/draw
-Get a drink of water/snack
-Practice some yoga poses/do some stretches
-Take a walk
-5 minutes of mindfulness/meditation
-Count backwards
-Do some jumping jacks, push ups, or sit ups
-Punch a pillow/scream into a pillow
-Listen to music/dance/sing
-Talk to someone (Friend, Teacher, Parent/Guardian)
-54321 Grounding Technique
-Take a shower/bath
-Play your favorite sport
-Journal/ write down your thoughts
-Read a book
-Play with a fidget toy
-Paint your nails
-Watch a short funny video
-Clean/organize
-Play with a pet/animal
Is talking when others are talking showing respect or disrespect?
Disrespect
You see someone in the hallway who spilled all of their papers and pencils. What can you do to show them kindness?
You can help them pick up the papers and pencils.
Is this bullying, conflict, being mean, or being rude? An older student intentionally trips you every day at dismissal and laughs when you fall.
Bullying
Our physical health affects our mental health/emotions. What is an example of how we can take care of ourselves physically?
Eating a balanced diet, getting at least 1 hour of play time/exercise every day, staying hydrated, limiting yourself to 2 hours of screen time, and getting at least 7-8 hours of sleep each night can help you feel like the best version of yourself.
How can you show respect towards a classmate who is "on yellow"?
You can give them some personal space.
You could ask them if they want to talk about it.
You could offer to practice a coping strategy together such as taking 3 deep breaths (breathing in for a count of 4, holding for a count of 4, and breathing out for a count of 8).
You are in class struggling with the assignment and are getting frustrated. What can you do?
- You can take some deep breaths (or use a different coping strategy)
- You can ask the teacher or a classmate for help with the assignment
What can you do if you see someone getting bullied?
- do not join in the bullying (ie. do not laugh too)
- tell the person who is bullying to stop
If you do not feel it is safe for you to intervene, tell a trusted adult.
- Ask the victim to take a walk with you to the bathroom, to get a drink of water, or anywhere to get away from the situation.
- Comfort the victim and ask if they are okay
What do the three mood card colors mean (green, yellow, and red)?
GREEN: I’M FEELING CALM. I’M READY TO LEARN.
YELLOW: I’M FEELING A BIT UPSET/STRESSED. I NEED PERSONAL SPACE. I NEED TO USE A COPING STRATEGY IN THE CLASSROOM.
RED TELLS YOUR TEACHER/CLASSMATES: I NEED TO TAKE A BREAK. I AM ABOUT TO EXPLODE.
What is an example of someone being disrespectful?
- Gossiping/ spreading rumors
- Bullying, conflict, being rude, and being mean
- Yelling at others, cursing at others, or calling people mean names
- Making fun of someone else
- Not showing up when you said you would
- Talking when others are talking (interrupting)
- Not respecting someone's boundaries/ personal space
- Leaving a mess/ littering/ not throwing away your trash or cleaning up
You see a classmate at lunch who is sitting alone and looks sad. What can you do?
You could go over and ask if they would like to be alone/ have some space or if they would like some company.
If they would like some company, you could sit with them at lunch.
You could ask if they want to talk about what is bothering them.
You could try to cheer your classmate up by telling them a funny story or talking about a shared interest.
What is the definition of bullying?
Bullying is the repetitive, intentional hurting of one person or group by another person or group, where the relationship involves an imbalance of power. Bullying can be physical, verbal, or psychological. It can happen face-to-face or online.
What is the 54321 Grounding Technique and why use it?
5 things you can see, 4 things you can touch, 3 things you can hear, 2 things you can smell, 1 thing you can taste
You can use the 54321 Grounding Technique to help ground yourself in the present moment and relax. When we feel stressed, the world can feel overwhelming. When we focus on our 5 senses, it can help our bodies and mind feel better.
What is an example of how to show another person respect?
- Listening to someone with your full body
- By being polite (saying please and thank you)
- Talking in a kind tone with others
- Thinking before speaking about how your words will make someone else feel
A friend tells you that a classmate has been spreading rumors about you that you have lice. You do not have lice. What can you do?
- You can practice a coping strategy before responding
- You could have a responsive restorative circle with the classmate and an adult to talk about the situation and how to make things right.
What is the difference between bullying and conflict?
Conflict is considered mutual, meaning everyone is more or less evenly involved. Bullying, on the other hand, involves one or several people (the bullies) intentionally committing a mean or violent act against another person(s) or group of people (the victims). When bullying occurs, there is no mutual participation in a disagreement; it is one sided. Bullying victims have a hard time defending themselves. The victims want the bullying to stop, but the bully continues the behavior.
What is the purpose behind using the mood cards (red, yellow, and green) in the classroom?
To communicate with your teacher and classmates how you are feeling.
If you see a classmate is on yellow, you can give them some personal space. You could ask them if they want to talk about what is bothering them. You could do a coping strategy together in the classroom (for example: take deep breaths together).
If you see someone is on red, remind them they can ask the teacher to use a 5-minute break pass.
What is the definition of respect?
Respect is a fundamental value that encompasses acknowledging the worth and dignity of others. It involves treating individuals with kindness, fairness, and consideration, regardless of their differences or opinions. Respecting others means actively listening to their perspectives, valuing their autonomy, and refraining from actions that may cause harm or undermine their rights and boundaries.
You got into physical conflict with another student and both were sent to the Promise Center for 5 days. What can you do before you come back to school/ on your first day back?
- Reflect on what happened before coming back to school. What happened? What were you thinking of at the time? What have you thought about since? Who has been affected by what you have done and in what way? What do you think you need to do to make things right?
- Schedule a responsive restorative circle to meet with an adult and the student you got into conflict with to apologize and problem-solve how you can make things right/ prevent future physical conflicts from happening.
- Practice your coping strategies daily so that when you are feeling "on red", you can automatically go towards using your coping strategies rather than exploding/ engaging in bullying or conflict.