The Animals of Conflict
The passive response
What is the Turtle?
Jon has a difficult time in math class and frequently gets the answers wrong when the teacher calls on him. Leslie, one of the students in his class, often laughs at him. Jon yelled at Leslie & told him to shut up.
What is the Conflict Controller/ Shark?
In the S.T.E.P. It Up model, the "s" stands for _____, think, & cool off.
(*Hint. Take a break and regulate your emotions before you try to resolve the conflict.)
What is "Stop."
**DOUBLE POINTS**
The different ways to listen to someone.
*Hint, There are 4 ways to listen to someone.
What is ears, eyes, mouth, and body
When you share your point of view.
What is a perspective.
The aggressive response
What is the Shark?
*DOUBLE POINTS*
Sarah signs on to Facebook and sees that Scott had been posting mean things about her on his wall. The next day, she passed Scott in the hallway at school and asked him what was that about and why would he do that.
What is the Solution Finder/Owl?
In the S.T.E.P. It Up model, the "T" stands for "_____ ______ ______!"
(*Hint. Engage in respectful dialogue and put both sides of the story out on the table.)
What is "Talk It Out."
A statement that blames, makes fun of, tries to embarrass, and make someone feel bad.
What is a put-down statement.
**DOUBLE POINTS**
Cool off activities/exercises when you're experiencing strong emotions.
What is calm breathing, counting, talk it out, walking away, square breathing, going for a walk, listen to music, lay down etc.
The assertive response
What is the Owl?
Simone’s class is taking a Science test and the teacher steps out of the room for a minute. During this time, Felix asks Simone for one of the answers. Simone does not respond to Felix.
What is the Conflict Avoider/Turtle?
**WORTH DOUBLE POINTS**
In the S.T.E.P. It Up Model, the "E" stands for, _____ _____ _______ ______."
(*Hint. Come up with solutions that are satisfactory to everyone involved)
What is Evaluate/Evaluate the Possible Solutions.
This statement is calm like an owl and avoids blaming the other person.
*Hint, When you focus on your own feelings and how you want to resolve the problem.
What is a clear it up statement.
The 3 B's at Rocky Fork Elementary.
What is Be Respectful, Be Responsible, Be Safe.
The conflict avoider
What is the Turtle?
Ryan is playing on the same kickball team as Diana and they both want to pitch. Diana is shouting at Ryan. Ryan shakes his head and lets Diana pitch.
What is the Conflict Avoider/Turtle?
In the S.T.E.P. It Up Model, the "P" stands for "____ ____ ____ ____."
(*Hint. Choose the solution that is best for everyone and try it out!)
What is Pick a Realistic Solution.
**TRIPLE POINTS**
This statement has 2 parts.
What is the clear it up statement.
When conflict is certain to happen.
*Hint, a synonym for certain to happen/unavoidable.
What is inevitable.
The solution finder
What is the Owl?
At 2 a.m., someone calls Todd’s house and wakes his entire family. When Todd’s mom answers, the person plays loud music into the phone and hangs up. The next day at school, Todd finds out that his classmate, Jared, made the phone call. Todd told Jared his phone call woke his entire family and to not do that again.
What is the Solution Finder/Owl?
When two people share their perspectives in a respectful manner this is the ____ in the S.T.E.P. It Up Model.
What is "T/Talk It Out."
The 2 parts of the clear it up statement.
What is a feelings statement and request statement.
True or False: Conflict can lead to positive outcomes.
What is True.