Problem-Solving
The size of our reaction should match the size of the ______.
Problem
Give an example of a tiny problem.
Ex. Pencil breaks during a test.
True or False: Taking deep breaths before resolving a conflict will make you feel worse.
False; it will help calm your body & mind
True or False: Conflict is when 2 or more people disagree about something.
True
You're telling your friend about your Spring Break but they keep interrupting you.
Ex. I feel frustrated when you interrupt me. Can you please let me finish my story?
Who should we listen to or ask for help when there's a big or huge problem?
A trusted adult or adult in charge.
Give an example of a little problem.
Ex. Forgetting to do your homework.
What are triggers? Are they the same for everyone?
Things that happen that make us feel worried, upset, or frustrated.
This style is when someone avoids problems or always lets the other person get their way.
Passive or Turtle
Your trying to finish your classwork but the student next to you keeps trying to talk to you.
Ex. I feel annoyed when you talk while I'm working. Can you please wait until later to talk?
Explain why it's helpful to be calm when problem solving?
When our mind & body are calm, we make better choices & can think clearly.
Give an example of a medium problem.
Ex. Argument with sibling or friend.
Name 3 coping tools you can use if the size of your reaction doesn't match the size of the problem.
Walk away, take a break, use calming toy, talk to a trusted adult, mindfulness, chair push-ups, etc.
This style is when a person yells, blames others, or bosses them around.
Aggressive or Tiger
You dropped your lunch try by accident and a classmate laughed and pointed at you.
Ex. I feel embarrassed when you laugh at me in front of everyone. Can you please not laugh at me?
Name the 4 Problem-Solving Steps
Say the problem, Think of solutions, Explore consequences, Pick the best solution
Give an example of a big problem.
Ex. Fall and break your arm.
List 3 different solutions we can use when having a conflict with others.
Tell them to stop, wait & cool off, ignore, apologize, talk it out, etc.
This style is when a person uses a calm voice, listens to the other person, & speaks up for themselves.
Assertive or Owl
Your friend is teasing you about losing a game at recess.
Ex. I feel upset when you tease me for losing the game. Can you please not do that again?
What can happen if the size of our reaction doesn't match the size of the problem? Give 2 examples.
Get in trouble, make a bad choice, act without thinking, get hurt, etc.
Give an example of a huge problem.
Ex. Natural disaster
This way of handling conflict includes making eye contact, calm but firm voice, & respecting your rights and the rights of others.
Assertive or Owl
What are the 3 parts of an I-Statement?
How you feel, the problem, what you need.
Your best friend hasn't talked to you for 3 days after an argument.
Ex. I feel sad when you ignore me. Can you please talk it out with me?