Notice
What is the first step of processing emotions
To notice the emotion
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What is the second step of processing emotions
Giving the emotion a name
what is the 3rd part of processing emotions
Accepting the emotion
What is the 4th step in processing emotions?
Investigate the emotion
Can you name all 5 in order?
How do you notice an emotion
Look at what your body is doing
Look at the change in your moodLook at your thoughts
Red face
screaming/shouting
Stomping
Slamming Doors
Anger
How do you accept the emotion?
What is something you can say to yourself to accept the emotion?
You tell yourself it is normal to feel the feeling
You can tell yourself it is okay to feel the feeling
Ex: I am feeling sad and that is okay. It is normal to feel sad when someone does something to hurt me.
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How do you investigate the emotion?
Hint (its 4 things)
You try to find out how strong the emotion is. You can do this by picking a number 1-10 with 1 being the lowest level and 10 being the highest level.
You can try to find out what caused the emotion.
You can look at more closely what your body is doing and what your mind is saying
You can look more closely at what the emotion feels like.
What is the example used to remember how to process the emotion.
Hint: it has something to do with the beach water
let it pass like a wave
or
ride the wave of the emotion
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How do you notice you are angry
What does your body do?
what does your mind say?
shake
get red
feel like you are going to explode like a volcano
This is unfair
I don't like this
Smiling
Singing
Jumping
Skipping
Happy
Think about what caused the feeling. Its okay if you don't find the answer of what caused it just yet for this stage.
Lets practice investigating anger....
John and his parents just got home from the store. His mom was taking him out of his car seat. As his mom was helping him out of the car, John dropped his ball and it rolled across the street. John ran to go get the ball but he didn't see a car was coming. The car stopped immediately and John's mom ran to go get John. She screamed at John for crossing the street without permission.
How strong is the mom's anger?
What caused the anger?
What is the mom's body doing and what is her mind saying?
If you looked more closely at the mom's emotion, what do you think she really feels?
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John crossing the street without permission. John being unsafe.
Running to get John, screaming, picking John up, Looked at the incoming car. What if John gets hurt, John is being unsafe, Oh no, This is dangerous
Fear
How do you allow and release the emotion?
Hint: its 2 things
You allow your thoughts about the event and emotion to come and pass without stopping them and without making yourself feel bad for them.
You do a coping skill to help you let go of the emotion like screaming into a pillow, punching a pillow, throwing a ball at the wall, breaking things that are okay to break, boxing, exercise, running, writing in a journal, coloring, it can be anything that helps get the emotion out
How do you notice sadness
What does your body do?What does your mind say?
cry
crawl into a ball
stay in bed
not talk
have a frown
This hurtsshake
hide
freeze
run away
stay away from the object/person
Scared
What is the most important part to remember when trying to accept an emotion?
Don't make yourself feel bad for feeling the feeling.
Making yourself feel bad for feeling the feeling makes you feel worse and keeps the feeling around a lot longer.
Lets practice investigating The Fear....
Captain Mcdonald and his crew is out at sea. The captain was sleeping in his cabin when he heard a big bang. The Captain began to shake and pull the cover over his face because he knew everyone was sleeping too. He didn't know what could have been making the noise. He thought it could be a giant squid from the depth of the sea trying to steal the treasure he found. The captain remembered he had a flashlight under his pillow. He grabbed the flashlight and walked onto the deck. That's where he realized it was the wind blowing the pots and pans the crew left on the deck from dinner. The captain went back to bed and slept all night.
How strong is the Captain's fear?
What caused the fear?
What is the Captain's body doing and what is his mind saying?
If you looked more closely at the Captain's emotion, what else do you think the Captain is feeling or what more do you think the emotion feels like?
8
hearing loud noises when he didn't know where the noise could be coming from
shake, pulled the cover over his face, and he thought it could be a giant squid stealing the treasure
worry
Lets practice all the steps of processing emotions....
Kim has a performance today at school. She woke up this morning with butterflies in her stomach. She didn't talk much at the table while she ate breakfast. On the school bus, she stayed quiet and sat by herself. When her friends asked her whats wrong, she said she thinks she is going to mess up her lines during the performance. Before Kim walked on stage, she felt like she wanted to throw up. She didn't but she remembered thinking it was the strangest feeling.
Help Kim process the emotion....
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How do you notice when you are scared
What does you body do
What does your mind say
hide
stay away from what is scaring you
freeze
run away
shake
This is dangerousI could get hurt
not talking about it
not thinking about it
pushing it deep down inside
pushing it in the back of your mind
not going near the person/thing
ignoring it
avoiding
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Practice steps 1-3 of processing the emotion.
Carl was finished working on an assignment for school. He turned it into his teacher. He was very proud of his work because he tried his best. He was very excited to know his grade so he kept checking online to see his grade. When he looked for the third time, he saw that he had an F for the project. Carl frowned and began to cry. This is unfair he thought. His body started to shake and he began to punch and scream into his pillow. Help Carl process his emotions buy going through steps 1,2, and 3 with him.
1. notice
Carl noticed that his body did(cry, shake, scream and punch a pillow, frown) and his mind said (this is unfair).
2. Name it
Carl named his emotions as sad and angry
3. Accept it
Carl accepted can accept his emotions by telling himself it is okay and normal to feel sad and angry after getting a bad grade. He can also tell himself that he is feeling sad and angry because he tried so hard on the assignment and he did not get the grade he expected.
Lets practice investigating avoidance....
Perry the Platypus was on a mission to save Danville. When he got home he overheard Phineas and Ferb saying he was a bad pet and that they didn't want him to be their pet anymore. Perry began to feel butterflies in his stomach and tears in his eyes. But before he could cry or begin to think about the feelings, He left the house and went on another mission. Perry didn't go back home until everyone was sleeping because he didn't want to talk to the boys about what he heard. He also didn't want to feel the feelings again. Perry woke up very early in left the house for another mission again. He didn't even eat breakfast. When every Perry started to notice a mood change, he would immediately start to do something else.
How strong is the perry avoiding?
What caused perry to avoid?
What is the Perry's body doing and what is his mind saying?
what do you think is the reason he is avoiding, what feelings is he avoiding?
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he doesn't want to talk about or think about the boys not wanting him for a pet. He doesn't want to feel the upsetting emotions
Leaving the house early, getting back home late, not eating breakfast, not talking to anyone, not talking or seeing the boys. He is thinking I don't want to talk about it.
Sadness, worry, angry. It could be many different emotions but we don't know because he avoids it.
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Sonic is watching a movie on TV. Its a fighting movie with action. Sonic doesn't like watching action movies because it reminds of the time where he was robbed and beat up on a walk to his home from a friends house. He decided to watch the movie because his friend wanted to and what happened to him happened a while ago. But when the actors started to fight and the one guy had to go to the hospital, Sonic started to shake his leg and cross his arms. His stomach felt like it was sinking to bottom of his body. Sonic didn't want to think or talk about what happened to him, he just wanted to forget about it.
Help Sonic process the emotion.
What are some ways to help Sonic be willing to process this challenging emotion?
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