Defining Boundaries
Boundaries are limits people set in order to create a healthy sense of personal space. True or False
What is True?
"Leaves, hides, runs away"
What is this trauma response?
What is Flight?
(Trauma Responses - Flight, Fight, Freeze, Fawn)
Which is not an example of communicating boundaries for "Help Seeking":
1• Keep your needs and wants to yourself to avoid getting disappointed.
2• Remember that asking for help gives the other person a chance to feel helpful.
3• Make requests by clearly explaining how I feel and why
What is:
1• Keep your needs and wants to yourself to avoid getting disappointed.
Not shaking hands with strangers is an example of what type of Boundary Line? a) Space Boundaries b) Physical Boundaries c) Protective Boundaries
What is b) Physical Boundaries?
Avoid being the strong person for everyone is a way to protect your mental health.
True or False
Having well-developed boundaries in place can lead to unhealthy relationships.
What is False?
Having well-developed boundaries in place can lead to healthier relationships.
"Please, appease, befriend"
What is this trauma response?
What is Fawn?
(Trauma Responses - Flight, Fight, Freeze, Fawn)
I can only say “yes” based on my ability, capacity and availability.
True or False
What is False?
I can say “yes” or “no” based on my ability, capacity and availability.
Not engaging in a debate in a public place such as a crowded restaurant is an example of what type of boundary line? a) Expressive boundary b) Physical boundary c) Mental Boundary
What is c) Mental boundary?
You can not be well while “saying yes” to everything without discretion.
True or False
What is True?
Healthy Boundaries help distinguish a person's final wishes in case of death.
What is false?
Healthy Boundaries help distinguish the desires, needs, and preferences of a person.
"Fights back or talks back. defends self"
What is this trauma response?
What is Fight?
(Trauma Responses - Flight, Fight, Freeze, Fawn)
Which is not an example of communicating boundaries for "people pleasing" behavior:
1. Express myself considerately, then avoid trying to change others’ minds.
2. Offer all of my (energy, time, resources) as I have to give so others will like me.
3. Avoid agreeing to do things I will resent.
What is
2. Offer all of my (energy, time, resources) as I have to give so others will like me.
Asking someone if you can revisit the conversation when you are both in a calmer mood is an example of what type of boundary line? a) emotional boundary b) behavioral boundary c) expressions boundary
What is a) emotional boundary?
Expect myself to put in a reasonable effort, but not to be perfect is an example of :
a) self- compassion
b) time management
What is:
a) self- compassion
Healthy Boundaries help a person to avoid feeling manipulated, violated, or otherwise mistreated by other people. True or False
What is True?
"shuts down, numbs out, dissociates"
What is this trauma response?
What is Freeze?
(Trauma Responses - Flight, Fight, Freeze, Fawn)
What should a person do when people complain about their boundaries?
What is:
Redirect the conversation (Focus on the facts and the importance of the boundary) Change the subject of the conversation when appropriate
Not answering personal questions (i.e. health, relationship status, finances) in open settings such as work, church, family gatherings etc.) is an example of what type of boundary line? a) compromise boundary b) mental boundary c) self-love boundary
What is b) mental boundary?
Boundaries aren’t just about reacting to others. The concept also includes how you reach out to and connect with others. True or False
What is True.
Healthy Boundaries can put a person in a position where they get blamed for the emotions and needs of others.
What is false?
Healthy Boundaries can help a person avoid being in a position where they unfairly or inappropriately take responsibility for the emotions and needs of others.
Name two ways that emotional trauma that has not been dealt with will reveal itself?
What is:
people pleasing behaviors, avoidance of conflict, abandonment fears, seeking external validation, avoiding personal needs
First, they will say something offensive or hurtful about you. Then, when you call them out on it (or someone else does), they will tell you they were “just joking,” and that you shouldn’t be “so sensitive”.
What type of boundary violator is this?
What is "gaslighter"?
"It is not my job to fix others" is an example of what type of boundary line?
a) emotional boundary b) Stressful boundary c) Careful boundary
What is a) emotional boundary?
After you have done all you can in communicating your boundary, enforce a boundary around the time allotted for this conversation and decide when/how often you plan to communicate with the person in the future.
Is this a healthy boundary or unhealthy boundary?
What is healthy boundary?