Dialectical Thinking
Complete this sentence using a dialectical perspective:
I can take care of myself, ____ I need the help and support of others.
What is AND
A distress tolerance skill that is designed to keep pain from turning into suffering
What is RADICAL ACCEPTANCE
A live music event that you have really been looking forward to gets cancelled because of the weather. What is the best way to deal with this situation?
What is RADICAL ACCEPTANCE
What is one thing you could say/do that is NOT validating?
By choosing to radically _____ the things that are out of our control, we prevent ourselves from becoming stuck in unhappiness, bitterness, anger and sadness and we can stop suffering.
Complete this radical acceptance phrase: "Pain is inevitable. ______ is optional."
What is SUFFERING
A recognition or statement that a person or their feelings or opinions are valid or worthwhile. It can be used on your own emotions or in friendships/ relationships with others.
What is VALIDATION?
Name one healthy coping skill that you use when you are in distress
Examples: DEEP BREATHING, MUSIC, CALLING A FRIEND, PLAYING A GAME, MEDITATION, etc.
When addressing a conflict with a friend that made me upset, instead of starting with "You are...", I should start with the phrase, "________ ...".
What is "I FEEL..."
What is something you could say to yourself when it starts pouring rain on you that demonstrates radical acceptance?
Examples:
"It's okay to be frustrated, but I can cope."
"I can't change that it's raining."
"My car needed a wash anyway!"
"Yup!"
A close friend that you work with gets a promotion that you both applied for. You are envious because you really wanted the job. What emotion can you hold at the same time for them?
What is HAPPY, PROUD, or any other positive emotion :)
List one of the things we expect from one another in the group (group rule).
Possible answers: CONFIDENTIALITY, MUTUAL RESPECT, ARRIVE ON TIME, or REDUCE DISTRACTIONS
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Possible Answers:
What is PAY ATTENTION or LISTEN
What is REFLECT
What is ACKNOWLEDGE WHAT IS VALID
What is one thing that DBT and radical acceptance help us to do?
What is BE IN THE PRESENT, REGULATE EMOTIONS, TOLERATE STRESS, or HAVE EFFECTIVE RELATIONSHIPS
Dialectical thinking means that two conflicting thoughts can be true at the same time. Reframe this sentence in way that demonstrates a more accepting, dialectical viewpoint:
"I want to stay sober, but I am having urges to use."
What is "I want to stay sober AND I am having urges to use"
Present-moment awareness. An open and friendly willingness to understand what's going on in and around you- physically and mentally, and without judgment.
What is MINDFULNESS
Name one situation from your life in which it would be helpful to practice radical acceptance.
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Your sister comes to you to vent about a fight she had with her partner. You feel like she might overreacting. What would be one appropriate way to respond?
[any validating statement or trying to understand why she is so upset]
In Radical Acceptance Group, we are learning how to accept the things that we can NOT ______ in order to reduce our suffering.
What is CHANGE or CONTROL
Pain + __________ = Suffering
What is RESISTANCE
A type of talk therapy which is designed to help people manage difficult and intense emotions using distress tolerance, mindfulness, interpersonal effectiveness, and emotional regulation. Radical acceptance is a concept that came from this type of therapy.
What is DIALECTICAL BEHAVIOR THERAPY (DBT)
Practice a Self Compassion activity: Ask yourself, “What do I need to hear right now to express kindness to myself?” Is there a phrase that speaks to you in your particular situation that would be useful to hear right now?
EXAMPLES: May I give myself the compassion that I need • I accept myself just as I am • I forgive myself • May I be strong and full of courage • May I be patient • May I develop skills to help myself
What is the third step of self-validation?
1. Acknowledging
2. Allowing
3. ?
What is UNDERSTANDING
During the first group meeting, Alicia told a story about a donkey who was stuck in a well and the farmer was burying him with dirt. What did the donkey do to get out of the well?
What is Shook off the dirt and used it to step out of the well