Cognitive Distortions
Exaggerating the importance of events.
What is Magnification
Expressing your point of view in a way that is clear and direct, while still respecting others.
What is Assertive Communication.
Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him.
What is Step 3.
This too...
What is "shall pass".
The refusal to accept reality or fact, acting as if a painful event, thought or feeling did not exist.
What is Denial.
Seeing only the worst possible outcomes of a situation.
What is Catastrophizing.
Expressing feelings and opinions and advocating for their needs in a way that violates the rights of others.
What is Aggressive Communication.
Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.
What is Step 6.
If nothing changes....
What is "nothing changes".
Performing an extreme behavior in order to express thoughts or feelings the person feels incapable of otherwise expressing.
What is Acting Out
The belief that acts will influence unrelated situations. Example: "I am a good person, bad things shouldn't happen to me."
What is Magical Thinking.
A style of communication in which an individual appears passive on the surface, but are really acting out anger in a subtle, indirect, or behind-the-scenes way.
What is Passive-Aggressive Communication.
Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.
What is Step 9.
Practice an attitude
What is "of gratitude."
When you put your feelings or thoughts onto another person, as though they were that person’s feelings and thoughts.
What is Projection.
The belief that one is responsible for events outside of their own control. Example: "My mom is always upset. She would be fine if I did more to help her."
What is Personalization.
Communication that is cunning, controlling other people in an insidious way such as sulking, using fake tears, indirectly asking for their needs to be met, and making the other person feel sorry or obliged to help them. They can be patronizing, ingratiating, envious, and often use a high pitched voice.
What is Manipulative Communication.
Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these Steps, we tried to carry this message to alcoholics, and to practice these principles in all our affairs
What is Step 12.
Alcoholism is an.....
What is "equal opportunity destroyer".
When one shuts down all of their emotions and approaches a situation solely from a rational standpoint — especially when the expression of emotions would be appropriate.
What is Intellectualizing.
The assumption that emotions reflect the way things really are. Example: "I feel like a bad friend, therefore I must be a bad friend."
What is Emotional Reasoning.
Communicating in a manner that pleases others and avoids conflict. Communication in a manner that treats the needs of others as more important than their own.
What is Submissive Communication.
Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all.
What is Step 8.
The road to sobriety is a simple journey....
What is "for confused people with a complicated disease".
A person loses track of time and/or person, and instead finds another representation of their self in order to continue in the moment.
What is Dissociation.